*deep breath...*<P>I'll try one more time.....and no, I am not torqued up into a Tazmanian frenzy for the moment... I am trying to make a point about respect for the individual. Especially, how we treat people who may be vulnerable and reaching out.<P>D99, please. I ask you, did you see *any* of that in my post? You only responded to my anger. Anger at your *behavior*. I did not generalize or let it spill over. I am not railing and carrying on because I am angry at my wife, my life, my kids, my parents, or anything else. Clearly, I want to say, I objected to your behavior.<P>There are several reasons why I got so angry. The first has to do with my belief that we all should respect the inherent goodness of the individual. Especially if that individual does not have a pattern of bad deeds. I even respect them if, having a history of bad deeds, they are repentant and are truly trying to make things better.<P>D99, I got angry because you chose to fire away at a young woman who has done nothing but *think*. She is impressionable. She is probably hurting. She may have been abused earlier in her life. <P>You did not help her. You did not make her feel welcome. You made a summary judgement of her based on your own experience. You acted in a prejudicial way. A blanket condemnation... "you are a SLUT". And, you damned her to that fate for all time.<P>D99, if you truly are a good man, act like it. If you truly are a good man, expect to be held to a higher standard.<P>

Duncanmac,<P>A well thought out note...I read it twice. I can tell you are "reaching" way back to hold your tongue in check.<P>I'll reflect on all of what you have written, truly I will.<P>The fundamental difference we have, is that you go into a frenzy at the sight of my name. Where is your attack on K? He agreed with what I wrote... Others here have privately given me their thoughts on why this is so.(your focus on me at the cost of your reason) I am starting to think they may be right. But that will remain private and in confidence between us.<P>Yes I am a man, many tell me I am a "good" man also, because of the way I LIVE my life. Not by my words, but my deeds, which are much more important. I could improve 100% as a man easily, and that is true because I am a MAN, not a God, as some try to imitate. I can't be open to every person considering Evil in this Life, I'm not that big inside...I admit it. So therefore, when I see people contemplating an Evil deed, I respond as a Man, not with the benevolence of a God. So many here write as if they have this gift that only a God would likely have in his power.<P>Another thought: I have never betrayed my wife, I am not an INFIDEL...but, I have sinned, yes many times, and I will likely sin today...this isn't about not sinning on this forum. It is about INFIDELITY...we could go to another forum and discuss the M&Ms I stole in my youth...this isn't the place.<P>Also, how do you know so much about Marcil to suggest she might be "abused"??? That is a presumption of a huge magnitude my friend..I wonder if you should respond to the person who suggested that maybe "she" isn't even real??? Her story doesn't completely fit does it??? Is it even possible that someone would come on this forum and be a Fraud??? I wonder.<P><BR>Thanks again, for your calm reply, I accept it with humility.<P>Take Care,<BR>DG99s (H)<P>

I've read your post carefully today as well.<P>simply...I ask you...in the future, please give an extra thought before categorizing individuals and labelling them with terms which may be hurtful. I will as well.<P>Thanks, in advance.<BR>

I remembered this thread from a while back. This will tell you how different things were way back then. :> ) Where are DuncanMac, Suse, Whodat and Doug?