Sheba: Nice story! I kept thinking of the succubuses from BRAM STOKER'S DRACULA, feeding on Keanu Reeves' blood to keep him weak; only PT is feeding lostva's H Pop-Tarts and bacon to keep him weak in a sugar funk with hardened arteries. <P>lostva:<P>Curiouser and curiouser. Your H and PT have a truly dysfunctional relationship. I wonder too if he's in some kind of trouble he's protecting you from. What he said to her sounds as if he's being loyal to YOU. Bizarre.<P>

Hi wassi!!! Weird doesn't even BEGIN to describe it, does it? I think I would like a boring life for just a little while anyway!<P>I agree. The longer this goes on, the harder it is for him. C'mon. I've got the guest room better. No, no more PI. No more money. Great that you've got a handle on bimbo's actions now!!! She doesn't stand a chance.<P>Dazed - <P>Dysfunctional is, I believe, the understatement of the year!! That's the stupid part - in many respects he has CONTINUED to be loyal to me, to everyone he talks with. Ahhhh, the ride!!<P>Lori

Hi Lostva -<P>I have to stop reading your posts at night - I had dreams about you guys again!!!!!<P>These might be helpful though!!!!<P>In one dream your MIL was talking to H and asked him if he had killed anyone. He said "MOM, of course not - how could you ask me that!!" She said than why are you so afraid of whatever it is that PT is holding over you? Nothing short of cold-blooded murder would possibly make any of us feel any differently in our love for you.........<P>And stuff like that.<P>So, my thought is - can you see this happening? Actually throwing out there some terrible acts imaginable and showing him that nothing is that bad that he should be so afraid......<P><BR>What do you think? <P>Also, get that PI to find out about the attorney!!!!!<P>Off to work, now but had to put this on for you to think about.<P>HUGS,<P>Sheba<P>PS - the story.....see what happens when I watch videos with the kids!!! LOL!!

Lostva,<P>I wonder if your His in some DEEP financial trouble, with all the moeny borrowing, and maybe that is what he is trying to hide form you. The illusion from PT about first of the year - could it be possible that he might have to file for bankruptcy after the first of the year?? Could he be trying to protect you and the family home by his actions???<P>I don't know - maybe I am off course, but I do agree with the others - the tide has changed and his actions and words show loyalty to you.<P>Sheba,<BR>I am at work and laughing WAAAYYYY too loudly for someone who is supposed to be WORKING>>>>>>!!! Now, cut that out before I get fired! <P>Roll Me Away

Lori - Just another one of my off-the-wall ideas for a totally off-wall-situation. (Your story is far and away the most bizarre of any on this forum, I think.) Does PT drink alcohol? If so, you might attempt the tried-and-true tactic of getting her drunk (or having a friend get her drunk) in order to loosen her up, so she'll tell what it is she has on your H. (Does sound more than a bit like some kind of blackmail is going on there.) We will all stay tuned. Regards and blessings,<P>--Wex

Hi Sheba - You and your dreams. That's a good idea though. MIL had some surgery today, so we'll put it off until after Thanksgiving and see what she says. Can't afford the PI anymore. Out of money.<P>RMA - Maybe. I've thought about that. (You think YOU guys think of weird stuff!!) I was always the family "bookkeeper" and I never noticed anything, but you never know. Money seems to be a big part of this though.<P>(I had to shut my door to muffle my laughing too!!!)<P>Wex - Hi. OK, so I'm not alone in thinking this is the stupidest, strangest infidelity I could ever imagine. I had begun to think I was losing my mind. (the jury's still out on that one, btw!) H says she doesn't drink, doesn't do drugs, lives a good clean life (except for living w/ a married man old enough to be her father!). Ok, I'm a little testy today. You're not the first to suggest blackmail. Actually, H's sister was. She met PT 2 days after H left and she's been shouting extortion the whole time.<P>Thanks, everyone.<P>Lori