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#337980 03/15/01 07:11 PM
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Beth,<BR>I can feel for you and how low you feel right now, as I am right there with you. I e-mailed you at home, and wanted to let you know that I received that Restore Ministries package that was suggested. I can't wait to go home and dig in. It is so hard to stay up and hopeful that our spouses will return. We must continue in our "fight", and like Gentle said; we will win this up hill battle if we stand on the Rock of Jesus Christ.<BR>I am sorry that you are so low, I wish I could give you a big hug. I'll be praying for you.<BR>Petrie

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Alone1,<P>Sorry I didn't write yesterday but my husband came back to take us to church last night. He has done this about 8 weeks now. PTL!He was on the internet and I couldn't read the post because he comes up while I am on the computer. Our daughter has chick pox so he spent the night so he could take her to the doctor today and care for her. I am telling you this because for about 6 months he would barely come in our home. It took a lot of prayer and fasting to get the hate wall down. God has really worked in me but it came with a lot of pain. It is still painful but with each new day, God uses that pain to bring me were he wants me. I am grateful for the pain now because I know it changes me. <BR>Faith is believeing in the unseen. I know your pain. I know it is hard to believe changes will come but they will come. God is working in you. Read your workbook again. It always helps me. The workwork usually leads me to the bible. i still can't tell my husband I love him but I do get to show in love and this was something I was unable to do for a long time.Do you have any of the be encouraged tapes?<BR>You can email me if you want and I will share other things if you would like. tpatter4@aol.com<BR>I will be praying for you.<BR>gentle

#337982 03/16/01 07:34 AM
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Petrie,<P><BR> You will be amazed at the material in that book!!!!! I didnt get your email tho.Thanks for your prayers.<BR> Petrie,I read your post on dating.I have a high need for affection too.I get affection from my women friends at work.(Men try to give me affection too,but it is done with flirting,I dont need that right now.)<BR> When I am reallly down,I ask Jesus to put his loving arms around me and comfort me.<P><BR> Terri,<P> I am sorry your daughter has the chicken pox.It is really amazing what God is doing for you.Your husband has gone from not coming in the house,to taking you to church!!!!<BR> Terri ,I am really down because I am violating one of the scriptures ,and cant get past it.<BR> "And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt,let him have your coat also" Matt.5:38-48.<BR> I have not been able to let my attorney go,and I am angry at husband as he keeps on pursueing the divorce,even tho I have prayed against it.<BR> I am also feeling, why should H return to me,when he was miserable,(I didnt know it then).<BR> I am sure OW is not doing anything to upset him,is probably really sweet to him,and he probably feels some strange bonding with her,because she was at the end of her divorce ,at the same time she met my husband.(She divorced her husband,and my H had asked me for a divorce about the time the met.)(They met on the internet.) <BR> Anyways ,to sum it up.Why should I let my attorney go,when,thru his actions,I dont beleive he will come home.<BR> I am stuck on this.<BR> PS<BR>My H will hardly come in either.I think it is so silly when he rings the doorbell to come into his own house.I think he does it just to let me know he has distanced himself from me.<P> Love and Prayers,beth<P>Thanks for your email address.

#337983 03/16/01 09:34 PM
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Petrie, <P>God does answer prayers. Praise HIM, I had prayed that if it was HIS will you would go to the restore site and He would speak to you there. Let HIM continue to speak to you.<BR>Remember it is a hard narrow road.<P>Beth, <BR> <BR>I messed up today also. Opened my mouth. It was something small but opened a can of worms quick. I have been crying out to the Lord ever since. Let me try and tell you about letting my lawyer go and maybe it will help you.I pushed my husband further away when I contested the divorce because I now realize I uncovered his nakedness. Anyway I found the restore site and posted a pray request two days before my pre-trail date. I prayed and other things were happening too, but something told me not to go. I said God unless you send me a sign , I am not going(no fault state). My husband had just started working about 2 hours away. The night before court he called long distance to talk to our daughters. I thought he is not going to drive that far in the morning so I took this as a sign from God not to go. I had to work that day anyway and I called and left my lawyer<BR>a message. I told her I was not going. I had several reasons but none of them were about not needing her services. When I got home I had a message from her saying the judge will not be happy, you cannot just not show up! The next day I came home and she had left a message that said my husband had not shown up either so the judge had past on it for now!Praise God, I cried so much, I felt Gods love so strong.But this was not the end of my attorney. My husband didn't mention it and I didn't ask. About a month later I came<BR>home and there was a message from my lawyer saying his lawyer had set the pre-trail for the next week. So I am crying out to God again...why I ask? Thank God I had Bible study that night. During the class one of the ladies was talking and it hit me...I had not truly dismissed my lawyer.<BR>The next day I called and left another message for her. I said I want to drop the motion for maintence, my motion to contest the divorce and other motions I had started. I said in other words I no longer need legal counsel. I have only heard from my lawyer once since then and that was when she let me know that she was sending the papers to the judge saying I was dropping all motions and she was no longer my lawyer.<BR>I have trusted God with it since then. Some say well he doesn't have the money or this or that...I know it was the hand of the Almighty God! He has taken care of us since then and my husband paid child support until he lost his job and had to move back closier to us so I know Gods hands are on that also. We had prayed for him to move back closier to us. My mother and family doesn't understand about me not making him pay child support.The girls have not had to do with out...things have been tough but we are alright. <P>Remember we are not suppose to look at our circumstances. There is a verse in the Bible somewhere that says something like this(I will find it later)Man makes his plans but, it the Lord who guides his every footstep.They all say they are not coming home... they are confused by Satans lies.Listen to God not your husband. Believe me I know how you feel, I had one of those days today.I even sent restore <BR>ministry a question tonight.That was only the third one I have sent. I hope this helps you. My prayers are with you and Petrie.<BR>Terri<p>[This message has been edited by gentle (edited March 16, 2001).]

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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Anyways ,to sum it up.Why should I let my attorney go,when,thru his actions,I dont believe he will come home. I am stuck on this.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE> dear beth, don't let your unbelief hinder the restoration of your marriage. "Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things unseen" Heb 11:1 <P>Jas 1:6 - <B>But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. </B><P>Mt 17:20 "So Jesus said to them, "Because of your<B> unbelief</B>; for assuredly, I say to you, if you have faith as a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it will move;<B> and nothing will be impossible for you"</B><P>Heb 12:15 - "Look after each other so that none of you will miss out on the special favor of God. <B>Watch out that no bitter root of unbelief rises up among you</B>, for whenever it springs up, many are corrupted by its poison." <P>Joh 16:9 - "The world's sin is unbelief in me. "<P>Ro 11:23 - "And if the Jews turn from their unbelief, God will graft them back into the tree again. He has the power to do it." <BR>Ro 4:20 - "He did not waver at the promise of God through unbelief, but was strengthened in faith, giving glory to God" <BR>Ro 11:20 - "Because of unbelief they were broken off, and you stand by faith. Do not be haughty, but fear. "<P>If the desire of your heart is to have your marriage restored, BELIEVE, and PRAY. The Lord wants to give you the desires of your heart, according to His will. And, it is of His will that a marriage is restored.

#337985 03/18/01 09:26 PM
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Alcoholics Wife,<P> I thank you and bless you for being there to comfort other people,even tho you own life is difficult.Thank you for taking the time to comfort me with scripture.<P><BR> Your sister in Christ, Beth

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