Dear Lord, <BR>I pray for this couple. I pray for each individual that you illuminate your perfect plan for their marriage. Do not allow them to be discouraged. Allow them to recognize a challenge as a challenge and not as a death knell for their marriage.<P>I found rejoiceministries.org to be very useful and supportive. I thought my marriage was bleak and hopeless as much as yesterday, rest assured that God answers prayers. You just have to leave it to God, he will take care of it in His way, in His time. <P>

CarolBo:<BR> WHY do you come on this site? Are you trying to restore your M? WHY do you send DIS-couragement with every post? <BR> People on here are trying to restore their marriages. All you ever post to is about "adultery is a sin" - divorce your mate, etc. Bible-thumping. Then when someone comes up and points out a scripture to YOU showing how God is forgiving and we can forgive our spouse you accuse them of pulling it out of context.<BR> I don't understand your purpose. It is discouraging to a new, confused BS to come here and hear your rantings.<P> I would ask you to please stop contradicting what is taught on this site. There are other "Divorce Support" groups who believe as you do, that an A means the M is OVER. Go over there if you want to continue thinking the way that you do. <A HREF="http://divorcesupport.about.com/mbody.htm" TARGET=_blank>http://divorcesupport.about.com/mbody.htm</A> <BR>I was on there, but it is too depressing. All they want to do is bash the WS and advocate D. I am a Christian. I believe God can do ALL things. Including making my WH CHASTE and PURE and not giving him "life threatening, STD's to bring home to the M bed"<P> I am trusting GOD with my M problems...coming here is NOT looking all over for answers. It is looking to GOD and asking other prayer warriors who have "been there" and understand the pain to pray, like-minded christians who also believe God can and DOES restore loving marriages.<P>I ask again, WHY ARE YOU HERE? Please STOP discouraging others. You discourage me when I read your posts. You are being used by the devil. I'm sure you do not want that, but it is having that effect, as your discouraging statements make me doubt God's promises sometimes, and I need to stand strong on God's promises in order to continue standing for my M and my H. BTW - are you M? Are you involved in an A (either your H or yourself?) Are you D? WHY ARE YOU HERE?<P>I never hear you tell us YOUR story. WHY ARE YOU HERE? If you are an instrument of the devil, then BE GONE IN THE NAME OF JESUS. BY HIS BLOOD WE ARE COVERED. WE ARE CHILDREN OF GOD AND HE LOVES US AND WHEN WE DELIGHT IN HIM HE WILL GIVE US THE DESIRES OF OUR HEARTS.<BR>God Bless You<BR>Lupo

CarolBo, I have to agree with Lupo. Maybe I am further along on this trail since it's been 6 months so you don't discourage me at all: I just think you're out of it. You seem a little unstable in your answers and I agree that you might be being used by an evil source or else you might need some psyschiatric help.<P>I don't say this to be mean: I've been there and there's nothing wrong with it but you have to get help. You make sentences that make no sense and you post four times in a row. Are you sleeping okay? Are you having bad dreams? Are you having trouble with other relationships? Are you having trouble forgiving? Something isn't right with you. Pray about it and see what it could be.<P>But that's enough of discouragement and holier than thou attitude. ALL have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. We ALL need Jesus' forgiveness. And He made no bones about it - we are not going to be forgiven if we don't forgive. We HAVE to forgive our spouses and ourselves for our mistakes. And Jesus also said that not everyone who calls out "Lord, Lord" is going to be saved. This is not about appearances, but about the conversion of our hearts to the will of the Lord.<P>The Lord is with us on this site. There is no doubt about it. We will win over lots of souls to Him because we are standing against all odds and against all fears. The greater our suffering which we accept without rebellion, the greater the number of souls which will be helped. All of the great leaders of the church suffered - just read Paul. We are to rejoice in our suffering because the reward is great. (That means no finger-pointing at our WS or anybody else's WS.)<P><BR>Thanks for your prayer, Lupo. It is perfect.