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#343598 10/24/03 12:23 AM
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First, please say a prayer for me. I really felt the blues tonight and got extremely tempted. I was cleaning up an old PC to setup for the kids and I came across chat logs and pics from five years ago when I was having cybersex and the affair. I was a very sick person at that time. I was pulled into to read and view this stuff, and I am happy to say that I did not get excited and give in to the tempatation. In fact some of things I read/saw made me sick. Yet it still gripped me. The files have been deleted and the drive is being defragged.
So I would appreciate a prayer that I don't venture down that road.

Over the past few weeks, there have been two books which I have been thinking about getting. One was by Philip Yancey "Rumors of Another World" (mostly for me to keep where my W would find it). The other one was by Rick Warren "The Purpose Driven Life". The other day I was in K-Mart and saw it on sale, and it drew me to it, so I picked it up.

What's interesting is it is a 40-day program. The number 40 has been coming up quite a bit for me: 40 years old and I have been Born Again; many signiificant events in the Bible take place between 40 years (i.e. Moses); CHrist 40 days in the desert, etc. Anyway, the book suggests that there is strength and power in doing the program with another person. So...if anyone is interested in doing this, answer this post and/or email me. I am going to start the program on this Monday and finish Friday, Dec 4th. You have to do the program for 40 days straight; no doing two chapters one day and then missing one day, etc.

Anyone up for it?

God Bless us all,
TTSMM

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Sorry about the recent "reminders." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> I know that there are sins in my past that I have asked the Lord at times to give me amnesia to completely forget! Satan though likes to bring those things to our memories to remind us with both the hopes of condemning us and with the hopes of reeling us back in to that sin. But God is greater! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> And the more we obey and walk near Him, the more repulsive sin becomes.

I have not yet read Purpose Driven Life but have almost bought it several times. It is supposed to really be good. Two churches in my area are corporately doing the 40 Day Challenge. I am hoping mine will do it soon! You might check out your area and see if any of your local churches are doing it.

I am not going to volunteer to do the book with you only because I think you should have a man do the program with you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I think it's an awesome idea though!

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Trying,

I have started reading/doing exercises in the book. I would love to have an "accountability partner" to work thru this book with, but I have to agree with LovemtEx. I think it should be a "same-sex" partner.

Let me simply add that altho I am not very disciplined in doing a chapter a day,, as requested, I am still learning immense amounts of things about God and myself. This is the most intense, yet easily understood book about the nature of God and where I fit in it all, and what it all means that I have ever studied! It is well worth doing.

BTW - since I wasn't being very "disciplined" - or faithful in reading a complete chater a day, I wonder if God's timing in this broken arm thing isn't really a way to "put me down" so I will focus more and finish what I started! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

God bless,

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ttsmm, lmx, and lupo,
What if I go get the book, and we four would do it together? I will run out to K Mart and get the book over my noon hour. Also, are any of you interested in participating in a fast? On famtoday.com we are going to do one starting Nov 1st. There is a thread for it and you can list your loved ones, needs, etc.. Please join in. You can do whatever you feel the Good Lord leads you to do, as far as fasting. If you have questions, ask me. I will answer it.

God Bless
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I bought the book.

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What is the book about guys? Sounds interesting?

Do you all live in the same area? To be able to do this study "together" singleguy?

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I live in NJ.
Here is my email address **edit**
Phone number - will get when you email me.

My vision/goal/whatever you want to call it, is have a large group (6-12) MBers and we DO this together. I agree with the ladies above, that if it is only two it should be the same sex.
If we can get this group together, we could exchange phone numbers via email and speak during the week (there are free teleconference numbers available) to discuss our progress and support each other in being accountable.

Here is a link reviewing the book.
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I will wait until Wednesday, our prayer and fast day, before I start, so we can build up more interest.

Let me know.

God bless us on our journey to becoming the men and women God intended us to be,
TTSMM

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I hope we can do it as a group with both sexes involved. Can we do a group teleconference?

Hey Diamonzzz,
I left a post on the en board for you. I always want to know that you are OK. Why don't you join us in our book study here. Maybe your whole life will change, if your focus changes!!! I hardly ever go to the en board. I would rather stay here. I feel God's presence here. I don't think He is a big fan of the en board. There is too much {{{ humanness }}} there. God Bless and be with you Diamonzzz.

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Check out this site and let me know for "The Purpose Driven Life" teleconference.

Teleconference

The list of access phone numbers is
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For me, any call for me within the US, is a free long distance call (because of my long distance plan). Check these numbers out and let's decide what number we want to use.

I am also looking to use this service for a monthly "Prayer for the Restoration of Our Marriages" teleconference call. All those MBers (other invitees as well - church groups, family, friends, etc.) would dial in and pray an "Our Father" together. Then we would say the names of our spouses and children (together) and them hang up.
This idea was given to me by the Holy Spirit.

Let me know your thoughts.

God Bless us all in our purpose driven lives,
TTSMM

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Diamonzzz,
You NEED to be a part of this group. If you go to www.christianbookpreviews.com, there is a preview of the book. God has a plan for you Diamonzzz, and I, and everyone here, and we need to seek him for answers. After I read the preview, I am thoroughly behind what ttsmm is trying to do. I also feel the Holy Spirit has called him to lead us at this point. We need to be an obedient army of Christian soldiers. God is taking ttsmm to his purpose right now!!!! Take some time to be quiet before the Lord today Diamonzzz. Quit trying to figure it all out on your own. Give your life and your marriage over to Him, and have faith that He will be the Potter that He claims to be. You are my sister in Christ, and what brother doesn't help his sister!!!! Jesus will open the prison doors Diamonzzz, if you will simply open your heart. It's never too late to do the right thing!!!

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Hello all,
Count me in your group for The Purpose Driven Life program. Really gave me a lift tonight and I also feel this is a grat reguest from the Holy Spirit.
I also have unlimited long distance within USA so anywhere for me is ok!
God is directing us and I feel this is so good and healthy for our healing and understanding. I pray this helps all of the Mber's.
Thank you TTSMM and also for your prayer for my recovery with my injury's to both arms.
God Bless you all.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by LoveNcare:
<strong> Hello all,
Count me in your group for The Purpose Driven Life program. Really gave me a lift tonight and I also feel this is a great reguest from the Holy Spirit.
I also have unlimited long distance within USA so anywhere for me is ok!
God is directing us and I feel this is so good and healthy for our healing and understanding. I pray this helps all of the Mber's.
Thank you TTSMM and also for your prayer for my recovery with my injury's to both arms.
God Bless you all. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

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None of these #'s work for me <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Why does this need to be by phone? Is there any way someone can set up a chatroom?

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I am going to call my brother later today to see if he wants to participate in this. See if you can gather some friends, co-workers, family, etc.

OK, I need to know what number is good for everyone. We will rotate this every week to help alleviate any high phone charges. LoveNcare and myself have unlimited long distance, so we are open to any of the phone locations above. Let me know by 12:00 on Tuesday.

Wednesday, October 29th, the day for our Weekly Prayer for the Restoration of Marriages and Our Lives, will be the first day of the 40 days for this commitment. We will finish on Sunday, December 7th (someone please correct my math if it is wrong).
My suggestion is we read the chapters in the morning, before we do anything (shower, eat, go to work, etc.). If we read it just before bed, how much will we retain for the next day.

Our first call will be this Wednesday evening, October 29th, at 8:30 PM EST/7:30 PM CST/6:30 PM PST (again, correct my calculations if I am wrong).

I need all of your help with this. I have a tendancy to get controlling intead of leading when I am placed upon these postions. At work, that can be detrimental; at home it has been detrimental; with God it could be worse. So please help me stay the course with all of you and keeping God's Word at the forefront.

God Bless and Godspeed us all our journey to become what He intended us to be in our lives.
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ttsmm,
The phone number in Plainfield, Ma worked for me. Although I didn't go all the way thru all the prompts, it all sounded OK. I think it would be good if it was spelled out as to exactly what we are going to do on this call. I don't have a " name " to say when we connect, so I'm not sure what I would do, or say. Maybe it could be layed out a little clearer.

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My Dear Brothers and Sisters,
lupo brings up a good point.
I like the phone call though because it brings a personal interaction of emotion (hearing another's voice) to our mission. Unless we are afraid of losing out annominity, it will be difficult to hide.
Chat seems very impersonal. Also, it brings up to many bad reminders of the past for me. Chat rooms are what pushed me on my downhill spiral. Of course without that downhill spirial, who knows when/if I would have come back to God.

Let's decide quickly though. I don't want to get caught up in "paralysis of analysis" (a clever ,evil tool of the devil) and get us to loose track of what we WILL accomplish.

Grace to you all from Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior,
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Hmmm, tough call. All the #'s are LD for me (closest one is 1200 miles away), but personal interactions sound good.

Right now, typing is very difficult, so I'm not much of a barometer.

Any other options? You are right, we need to decide in about 24 hrs.

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Hello Lupolady and TTSMM,
Just a thought here - what if TTSMM and I call the number ? we decide on and then call one of you that are having trouble with long distance? I have three way calling <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ! Maybe someone else has this also?
Boy is God being good to the phone company's LOL!
My email is **edit**

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BS 53 WH 47 M 9 yrs together 11 H left 3/1/02, 3/31/02, 5/22/02 A found out 5/22/02 and maybe longer? Plan B 7/22/03, 8/10/03 May I have the strength and courage and as much faith to carry this to recovery! I have all the Love! LoveNCare
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I think this will be an awesome book to study, esp. as a group. For me, I am not really interested in doing it though. I'm sorry, but I'm hoping my church will do it soon and I want to do it in person with them (two churches in my area are doing it as a coorporate church-wide study right now). I don't think I would do good in a online study. In my opinion, I am online way too much as is. But I wish you all well and hope it is very beneficial and a blessing for you!

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I changed the time to 9:00 PM EST because 8:30 PM EST is 5:30 PM PST (bad calc on my part). People might not get home from work in time.
Also, the phone number is selected by the system, not us. Therefore, it picked California for teleconf.
Let's try to not get bogged down in this for now. Let's get the first call out of the way (apologies for the LD charges); then we can regroup and find another phoen solution.

Conference Details
Scheduled Conference Date: Wednesday, October 29, 2003
Scheduled Start Time: 9:00 p.m. Eastern Std Time
Scheduled End Time: 10:55 p.m. Eastern Std Time
Scheduled # of Participants: 25
Type of Conference: Web-Scheduled Standard
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Conference Controls:
Conversation Mode (all participants can be heard)
Entry Chimes - Enabled
Exit Chimes - Enabled

Touch-Tone Quick Reference for Conference Call

0 Exit the Conference
1 Enter a 1-on-1 Consultation
2 Get Your Caller Code for a Private Consultation
4 Access the Help Menu
5 Toggle Locking/Unlocking the Room
6 Toggle Mute/Unmute
7 Toggle Room Muting Mode (Conversation/Q&A/Presentation)
8 Time Remaining in the Conference
9 Toggle Entry/Exit Chimes (On/On, On/Off, Off/On, Off/Off)
# Hear the Number of Parties in the Conference

Touch-Tones 5, 7 and 9 are available only to the conference Organizer


I booked for 25 participants, doubt it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
I also booked for 1 hour and 55 minutes, doubt it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

But with the Lord, who knows waht HE will bring to us. Let's trust Him.

God Bless,
TTSMM

PS I wantd to send email invitations out with this info, BUT, I need your email addresses (send to mine if you want confidentiality). Also, your email address WILL appear to everyone that the invitation is sent to. So, if you don't want your email to be seen by the other's in this group, I will have to send info via this forum.
Note: Your email address will be seen by those I send email invites to, NOT the MB users and guests to this site.


God willing, we will get through this.

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