scared and lonely. <P>Telling your husband how much you appreciate him and telling him over and over, that his opinions are valued. But one thing is it may seem like he does not receive this. It all depends in what state of valuation you have for him right now. Now this has nothing to do with you. It all has to do with how he feels about himself.<BR>Can You remember the things that you admired about him when you first met. It obviously made a diufference to him then. Think about the ways that make him feel good about himself. What makes him feel special. A lot of times it has to do with appearance. It is the superficial things often at first. Also is conversation important, praiseing his intelliegence, is that important to him?<P>You know him best and because You are so hurt (rightfully so) it may take some thinking. It is important to love him in the way that is important to him. It will feel lopsided I'm sure. But possibly he can't meet your needs right now. But God can and will. That is important. He will be your husband.<P>I don't know if it would be too much if you just sat down beside him and said, I see how much you are in pain. I see that you are struggling. I want to understand, I love You and I want to be there for you, but you have to tell me how I can be there for you. You know I believe in you, I always have.<P>Now I am not saying to say these particular words. But see if you can look at him differently. If he is feeling shame, he may not be open to anything. Maybe you could ask him if you could hug him.<P>lonesome heart, I'm sorry to hear your pain. It really hurts. I'm glad you are getting counseling. That is important. Work on yourself. Open yourself up to God. Besides being quiet, rest in Him. And yes praising Him is a form of resting in Him. It is saying I trust in You and I take a step of faith to praise You even though I hurt and nothing has changed. By praising you will get your eyes off of the circumstancs and onto the Lord. <P>If it is difficult, start by reading the psalms out loud. I go through and read the praise ones. By reading them out loud it helps you to focus your thoughts on the praise. Your mind can't wander as much when you are speaking out loud. There is also power in praise that is verbalized. satan can't read Your thoughts, but if You speak the words he can hear them. So sing and praise the Lord, your God. I'm so glad you will join me in praising the Lord tomorrow.<P>Father I lift these women up to You. Lord let praise flow from their hearts. Let them read and sing psalms to Your Name. Let them rejoice in You, Lord. Let them walk in the garden with You and let them enjoy the delight YOu find in just being with them. Thank You Lord.