My STBX met the little rat [censored] at work...<P>She took a summer job painting for a friends company...The lure of the useing drugs lifestyle got to her and LRB went for it...<P>------------------<BR>Bill<P>May the roads rise to meet you,<BR>May the winds always be at your back,<BR>May the sun shine warm upon your face,<BR>The rains fall soft upon your fields,<BR>And until we meet again,<BR>May god hold you<BR>In the hollow of his hand.

My H's current affair is with a Groupie Barfly.<P>His first affair, OW #1, was also w/a Groupie Barfly.<P>Jo<BR>

My stbx's first EA (which caused our separation) was with a co-worker, no travel involved.<BR>Since then he's had several other EA/PA's with women who work on the same hospital campus. I work there too and his PA-OW was with the women right outside my office. That was fun, NOT. When that one ended she wouldn't speak to him or to me. Go figure

Guess I need to clarify. My H didn't sleep with any of his co-workers, but he met some of the OW on the job. He definitely allowed me to believe he was working when he was with them.<P>He didn't use his out-of-town travel for rendez-vous, but he got together with them when I was out of-town for work.

My H had the affair with a girl who was my "close friend"....

My h affair was with a co-worker who he met in Canada. It started off as a fling and then somehow she managed to volonteer to support him in a pre-sales role in the UK. WOW did that cost us money now I discover setting her up here.

My husbands affair started with someone he started talking to on the internet. He was out looking for someone because he had a "problem" with me. One of the women he started talking to fell in love with him instantly and has moved away from her children to be with him to this day

My husband met the OW at a party I refused to attend because we had a fight. I stupidly thought if I let him go to the party without me, he would miss me and regret the mean things he had said.<P>I guess he showed me!!!<P>catnip =^^=

The STD Tramp was a known slut (famous for boinking anything in pants) that he ran into at a beer joint down the road.<P>Cafe Woman is a "casual friend" who owns the restaurant where H always ate breakfast and lunch. She also has tried to become one of our "inner circle" of friends....the ones we hang out with. Since H & I had our confrontation about her, she rarely turns up for any of the parties and get-togethers anymore.<P>Now, for the suspected OW...I believe H started cheating while I was pregnant with our second child. He was a volunteer fireman two weekends a month, and he could have had a fling with a female dispatcher or a fire department groupie.<P>Another time, I suspected a woman I've known all my life (who is also a known slut who has no qualms about trying to break up marriages--especially if she thinks the guy has money or a good living). This woman had recently moved back to our area, and got H down to her house to fix her waterheater. I never saw any money from that, plus H's brother, who was working for H at that time, started cheating on his fiancee with this woman's best friend. I also think that my son, who was about 8 at the time (and who I sent to work with his dad to prevent anything happening), saw something that made him think something was going on. One night, I took the kids riding with me to see if H was really at the deer camp. I didn't tell the kids a thing other than that we were just going for a ride, but my son asked me if I thought daddy had a girlfriend. I didn't push him for any answers because I didn't want to get my kids involved, but that's why I think my son sensed something between H and this particular woman.<P>I think there were other times, as well, but I can't recall any specific suspicions other than those.

Wife's OM is former co-worker. They'd worked closely together and been friends inside and outside of work for about a year before the affair really started. He left the job about a month after discovery because he felt it was "the right thing to do." Hasn't stopped the affair from continuing.

Yes, "very,very close" coworker....EA, but he is obsessed with her and possibly making it physical.<P>This all despite the fact that he doesn't see that their friendship of 5 years of working closely and it suddenly becoming a "soul mate" love thing has anything to do with our separation.<P>This all depspite the fact that he doesn't see the comparison of him to say...clinton..and to all of the other c0worker relationships that broke up marraiges where he works that he was disgusted about!!!!<P>That was then, this is the "new" less improved H!!!!

Co-worker, her in dispatch, him on the road, unless he could work overtime in dispatch so they could listen to each others voices!

Dragon Lady was my H's boss. They were working in a company where THEIR boss was in a political fight with another executive, and this brought his department very close together. They did everything together, including go out 3-4 nights a week -- without spouses.<P>During that time, Dragon Lady went from "that twit" to "poor Dragon Lady" because of some personal problems she had.<P>Summer 1998 he went on a business trip -- him, Dragon Lady, and their boss. <P>He came home and decided to spice up our sex life, saying he found it unsatisfying and boring.<P>You do the math.<P>My H "fell on his sword", so to speak, getting fired defending his friends, because "my friends come first."<P>After that, he went to her every time he needed support during the next 10 months of erratic work history.<P>Then she got him is current job.<P>She just won't go away...<P>

OW is a co-worker & direct report to him. That is what irks me so much. His big excuss is that she "respected him". It was all ego stroking. Now his job could be lost, but if that happens I will make sure hers goes to. Really goofy part is that the job he has is a bigger ego booster than most anything else in his life. And SHE and the A are the thing threatening that. How ironic. True poetic justic. <P>In a non-threatening way I have expressed to him how sad it is that he put our children at risk (no income, etc.). That hit home to him. Of all things I think I could handle the affair better than I can the fact that he has put our home & children at risk. I really thought he was smarter than that. Oh well.

My H started his affair with co-worker in a different dept. working on the same project (along with 5 other people). They all were off-site on the two-week project. It was the next week that their e-mail affair started (on our 11th anniversary) and 3 weeks before their physical affair started.<BR>