Bill,<P>I read your post yesterday and have been praying for you. Sorry I didn't reply I have just been in my own weird "headspace" right now, just wanted to let you know I am thinking about you and D and praying for all involved.<P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole

Bill,<P>Just wanted to tell you that I can't offer much in the way of advice but I can offer you a prayer for peace and happiness.<P>My H filed for divorce last week. I was on Plan A, but did wreck that last contact being peaceful as I was crying and in tears. Now there is no contact on H's part, so I guess you would say I am in somewhat of a Plan B. I didn't get to do the letter, or anything. I feel like once again I got the raw end of the deal.<P>Stay strong, sounds like you are handling this pretty well, with all things considering. Prayers are with you tonite. Dana<BR>

I read your comment about wife doing something you didn't want to talk about. It sounded serious. My H has been doing things that I don't think I can forgive. He is risking himself too. Not that he cares if I forgive him or not (he has filed for Divorce). He isn't man I married. He is a boy who will never grow up. If he continues to do some of the things he is doing, he is going to get really hurt. I can't help but worry. I never want him to hurt. Hang in there, Bill. I will be praying for you.

Bill,<BR> You have to understand,plan B was for me.I couldn't take her belittling me anymore.She found a trophy-boyfriend,had exotic sex with him,and rubbed my nose in it.She talked down to me like I was one of Jerry's kids.Plus,she's going through a mid-life crisis,or identity crisis,or God knows what.She's changed her whole personality,looks,and attitude.Maybe even doing drugs.Kinda like"Grease",from the nice girl to being a biker-b!tch.Have you ever known anyone that's gone through this?Neither have I(until now).I don't think my W is coming back to this planet,Bill.Pretty sure she's gone for good.Haven't heard from her in months.I guess I prefer it that way.This goes way beyond a simple affair.At least she told me that when we divorce,she'll go easy on me.So,net results?Basically baching it,moving on,planning my future without her.I'm sure she's doing things that I wouldn't want to share here,either.Lucky for me,I don't even know.<BR> By the way,Bill..."Get away from that phone!" --Murph

Yo Bill,<P>You ask many thought provoking questions. I will try my best to answer them completely and honestly.<P>First, Will we actually ask said afore mentioned dog [Squiggy] to return to his previously held residence? He is very close to his mommy [Val] and would probably want to see something in writing as to visitation rights with a provision that if she ever regains sanity, that she would also be able to return to the family home. He is pretty slick for being an ankle biter.<P>Would Squigg still talk to me? He has spoken to me on numerous occasions and has been pleasent. He has even called here to ask if we found his missing coat. He was alittle upset when I told him it must have been lost in the move. Unfortunatly he has not been informed of all the misdoings of mommy. She has lied to him as well as me and the cats. I just can't break his spirit. He is considered a senior citizen dog [14 DY] and I fear hearing that his mommy is being naughty would stop his little doggy heart.<P>Should the cats talk to him first? I don't know if that would be a good idea. Pat, short for Patches, is not happy with the situation in the least bit. I have never heard a cat spout off so many four letter words. GADS. T.C., The Cat, on the other hand has seen some of the turmoil in the marriage and wonders if I could really change that much. GREAT, now I have to convince the damned furball and W that I'm a better person. When does it all end?<P>Well that's my life in a nutshell. AAAHHHHH help I'm in a nutshell. How did I get into this nutshell.<P>Whoa, now I'm scaring myself.<P>Best wishes Buddy,<P>Zippy the Pinhead