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I'm sorry guys. I am just tired of not having my needs meet , Mike knows what they are and yet refuses to respond.<P>I am so vunerable right now I know it wouldn't take much for me to cheat on him if a man came along who showed me any attention and affection, I'd be a cooked goose.<P>I don't want to do that, but I don't want to spend my life with a man who will give all the little things to other women but not to me. If I am going to be this lonely, I would rather it be alone than with someone I love who refuses to take just a little time and make a tiny effort.<P>I hope God will forgive me, I doubt I ever will
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{{{{{Deb}}}}}<P>I'm sorry that it has come down to that, it seems like that title/heading is coming up more and more often at the MB board. Don't worry about God, He'll handle the forgiveness on His end, you just take care of it on your end.<P>My prayers are with you. Remember though, nothing is ever final. Maybe he'll wake up and realize what he is doing and who he is about to lose. I hope you have the love left to give him another chance if he does.<P>Take care and don't forget to ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) because there are still things out there to be happy about.<P>------------------<BR>Allen<BR>sparky_dog_mb@yahoo.com
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Bozos_ Deb -- I am so very sorry that things have to this point for you.<P>My thoughts and prayers are with you tonight.<P>God Bless
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God bless you Deb, I know how hard you have tried.<P>{{{{DEB}}}}<P>lizzie/pearl
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Dear Deb,<P>May you learn to find peace and tranquility with your decision. <P>My thoughts are with you.<P>Lisa
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Oh Deb,<P>I am so sorry. You have tried so hard, and then tried some more.<P>God will forgive you, and in time, if this is what is meant to be, you will forgive yourself and Mike as well.<P>I wish I had some magic words to take away your ache. I know how awful this feels.<P>{{{{{{{{{{Deb}}}}}}}}}}}<P>God Bless,<P>Cheryl
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Thanks guys,<P>I can't stop crying tonight. <P>He is disappointed that the money to pay for this will come out of the money we planned to use to buy a car. He doesn't seem to be disappointed in losing me.<P>I'll write more later when I can see clearly. <P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>
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Deb,<P>God hates divorce, not the people of divorce. He loves you and does forgive you. Now you MUST do the same. You must love yourself first and formost. As forgiving yourself, I don't see the need for that. <P>You are not to blame for the reasons leading to the divorce. You are responding the the actions your HUSBAND TOOK. <P>Your H cheated and you stayed to work things out. And you stayed a lot longer than a lot of people including myself. You did the best job you could do to save your marriage, but your h wasn't interested. Whose fault does that sound like ?<P>You will be suffering grief now. BUt it is normal. But you can't allow yourself to wallow in it.<P>I will keep you in my prayers along with the other. Be strong and not too tough on yourself.<P>{{{{{{Deb}}}}}}<P>Love,<P>Bob
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Oh Deb... I'm just so sorry... all I can say is YES, you deserve to be loved by a man who can see your beauty!<P>~Sheryl
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Debsters,<P>Sorry to hear it. Just take your time & don’t rush it.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>
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Deb.<P>I know if hurts. We all know it hurts. But you are right. You deserved to be loved by someone who can see you past his car! I am sure God wants you to find love too.<P>Best of luck. I am thinking of you .<P>Acacia
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Oh Deb.... <BR>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{<B>BIG HUG</B>}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>You do deserve so much more. You have worked so hard, and stayed the corse for so long, but we can only take so much. God loves you, and is proud of all you have done to save your marriage. He has something very special in store for you.<P>I'm here if you need to talk. Special prayers for you.<P>Love ya,<BR>Butterfly<BR>aka Dawnetta<P>------------------<BR>There are deep sorrows and killing cares in life, but the encouragement and love of friends were given us to make all difficulties bearable. <BR>-- John Oliver Holmes<P>The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.<BR>-- Elie Wiesel<P><BR>
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Deb,<P>I am sorry to hear of your most recent decision. I am sure that you weighed all options before coming to this drastic move.<P>I filed in October for the shear fact that I hoped that Val seeing the papers were in the works would force a move in the "right" direction. Well, I never professed to be swift. I lost ground. Her Mom helped me out on this one, well, Val he filed, must want a divorce. THANKS DOLORES! Don't get involved when you knew she was having the affair. Just making sure that this is not you MO.<P>I can not tell you to proceed or wait. Only you can possibly know the breaking point. I fear that you may have passed that place. I do not live in your home. I will support your desicion. <P>Sorry it had to come to this.<P>Tim
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Oh Deb, I am so very sorry that it had to come to this. I will be thinking of you.<P>((((((((((DEB)))))))))))<P>Viki
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Deb,<P>Thinking of you in this time of sorrow. I'm so sorry that it's come to this. Be strong and take your time.<P>I wish there was more I could say or do.<P>------------------<BR>/// Lone Star * ///<P>
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Oh, Deb, I am SO sorry. You've worked so very hard.<P>Take the time you need and try to take care of yourself. I know this was very hard for you to decide.<P>We love you.<P>(((((((((((((Deb)))))))))))))<P>Lori
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Deb, <P>I am so sorry. Take your time to make sure this is the right thing to do.<P>SHA
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Deb,<BR>I feel so bad for you. I know that this has been a long road you have traveled. I'm sorry that it all came to this. Don't rush the issue, but do take care of yourself. I know how lonely and sad you have been for a long time. Pick yourself up and start getting back to the great person you are. Mike is losing a great person. It's his loss.
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{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Deb}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<BR>I'm so sorry honey. We know how hard you've worked.<BR>Sometimes it gets to the point where we are lonlier with someone than we are when we are alone.<BR>Take care of yourself please. <BR>Remember to reach out for help when you need it. You know where I am.
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Deb,<BR>I received a tape in the mail, from Grace to You Ministries. I am going to go find their web-site, and post it here, so you can order the tape. <BR>Wait to make some decisions until you hear this tape, okay?<BR>God Bless,<BR>TNT
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