Well I made it thur my d' bball game this morning without speaking to the stbx. But I knew I would have to speak to her at the party.<P>I got to the bowling alley with my s and 2 of his friends. They immediately went into the arcade and wanted money. I told him ask his mother as I didn't have any. So his grandparents and later she gave them money. I gave them a couple bucks later on. I had decided to let her pay for everything since we plan to have shared parenting and I paid for everything at my d' birthday at the amusement park over the summer.That was the time she only brought $20. She does it all the time, not bring money so today was her turn to pay. I never even offered to pay for any of the party.<P>We had pizza and french fries and she even served me twice! I haven't keeled over yet so I guess she didn't slip me anything.<BR>I helped her serve thr cake and helped clean up after. Then I kept score will the 7 boys bowled. She just sat there and watched.<P>Afterwards, she cleaned up the leftover cake and loaded it into my car. Then she asked what the kids were doing and to call if they needed taken anywhere.<P><BR>She just called and asked what the kids are doing again, my d is already gone for the evening and I'm hoping my son has a place to go to, as I was invited to a football party tonite. <P>She sounded depressed that the kids didn't want her to do anything, she just doesn't get it. They depend on me. They only call her if I say no or am noy around. She doesn't understand that they don't want to see om.<P>It was funny, I half expected om to be at the party too. I think I would have ended up in jail then. I also expected him to be hanging around in the bar area, but he was no where in site. He didn't even give my son a gift. Maybe stbx is starting to think again.<P>My son got all kind of pokemon stuff and a Harry Potter book. I got him a snowboard. He was very excited today and neither I or stbx did anything to ruin the day for him.<P>2 down, and 2 holidays to go!!!!!!

Great!! I know your son felt really good that the day went well. I also know it is a big relief for you. <BR>But stbx thinking, no I doubt it not at this stage. <P>Again I am so happy for you that you got through the party with everything in tact and no jail sentence.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>

I'm so happy for you RWD...<P>Enjoy the rest of your evening...<BR>You have every right to just glow in the light of how you handled yourself today.... <P>Be happy... happy... happy... <P>I'll write later about more recent experiences I've had with my W's OM... but not now...<P>enjoy... relax... <P>You are a good man!!! And a great dad <P>Jim

Glad to hear that things went smoothly, and you are not in jail. <BR>Snowboard, eh? <BR>Deut

That's worth celebrating! Relax and have fun tonight!<P>Good job!<P>lori

RWD,<P>Glad the birthday party went well! Also, so happy you aren't going to jail <P>Your stbx probably was on her best behavior because her parents were there - maybe this is just more of this false image she is trying to create to keep herself looking innocent. Or, it could be that she is just "getting it" about the kids being with you all the time and relying on you and not her. My H had a little dose of that this past couple weeks, too. None of the kids called him for Thanksgiving while he spent the holiday and a whole week in Fl with OW and her S. Then he's all disappointed no one called him, seemed disappointed we had a great time without him and wrote his Mom he didn't know who came to our house for Thanksgiving. DUH, HELLO??????? If you leave you family and house, you have to expect those left behind WILL eventually get along without you.......!<P>Amazing that reality takes a long time to sink in with infidelity....<P>Having a beer now?????<P>Roll Me Away<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

Great Job RWD,<P>Glad to hear that you could enjoy the party!

Thanks all for your support !<P>I just got back from a friend's house. They had a house full of people of all ages. It was really nice. I had my 2 beers and I'm ready to go to bed now.<P>My d went to her friend's house to stay and my son went to his, so I had the night free.<P>Stbx called and asked if anybody needed to go anyplace and I told her no. SHe didn't call back the rest of the night.<P>While taking my son to his friends, he commented that one of his friends at the party said he had called my stbx to rsvp and om answered. The friend said his mother was on the line too and started to cuss om out. I know the woman and don't believe she would do that, besides I saw her and stbx taking amicably.<P>Then my son dropped another bombshell on me. He said om was a jerk. He's married, leaves his w, moves in with mom, leaves mom, moves back to his wife, leaves her again and moves back with mom, why can't he make up his mind?<P>I imagine there was something I could have said, but I just left it go. I would imagine he knows its a two way street, he is a very bright kid.