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Wuld my W still love me if I had been the one to cheat? In all honesty, it would depend on the person I was with. She has told me -- and I believe her -- that she would not leave me and even be willing to accept it as long as the other person was not trying to take me away from her.<P>I do know of a couple of women that would take me in a heartbeat if I would only give them the time of day, and these two fall into the catagory of causing a perminant rift between W and me without them (OW) trying to take me away from her. ... She has enemies and the fact that I would be with them would cause her more pain than she could bare.<P>Believe me, the thought has crossed my mind more times than I care to admit.<P>Revenge is like a carnaval game where you spend5 bucks to win a 50 cent toy. Even when you win, you lose.
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Joined: Dec 1999
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She's already told me I would have been out the first day. She'd have been willing to work on the marriage, but not with me living at home. She knows it's a double standard, but says that's just the way she feels.
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I reversed this a little bit, and pondered. Alot of people wrote on whether there spouse would still love them if they had been the ones to betray. I'm wondering if I would still love my husband if he had exhibited the behaviors I did? <P>Would I stop loving him if he began refusing to do fun things with me every time I asked, if sex seemed like a chore to him, if he appeared uninterested in the things I was doing, if the majority of the times we talked he always seemed to complain. If his parents and job appeared more important to him than me. If he started criticizing my skills as a parent...<P>Makes one think doesn't it?
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