My thread has taken over me! I am becoming nervous, wondering what the heck I'm going to say to them. How incredibly weird!<P>RWD-<BR>Thanks for your support and prayers. I can only do this with God on my side.<P>Deb-<BR>You sweet thing! All the troubles and pain in your life , and you reach out to me. You are a gem!<BR>Thanks for the advice and your story. I hope I can pull this off as well as you.<BR>Don't know what to say about 'trading down'. I think it's all part of the 'fantasy'!<BR>Thanks for the prayers.<P>NoTrust-<BR>I am hoping and praying to be strong. God will give me the words to say and the actions to do. I have no interest in being her friend. I will treat her like someone I am just meeting. <P>bonnet-<BR>you are so wonderful! Your words always seem to reach my heart. <BR>I'm sorry you are in a icky place right now. I will respond to your e-mail tonight. <BR>Give your girls a kiss and hug from me. Love you!<P>catnip-<BR>WOW! What a story. Thank you so much for sharing. I will look good and be good. I hopefully have them both wondering why he left me !<BR>I'm so glad things are working out for you. Keep up the good work!<P><BR>mammadoc-<BR>I think you are right, that this is a form of their depression. My H suffers from depression, and has many unresolved issues he is not willing to deal with.<BR>Maybe it's a good sign he is 'noticing' me- I don't know. Time will tell.<BR>Thanks for the encouragment<P>LWB-<BR>Mending fences with her and him will help me truly move forward. This has a long ride for me. It's time to bring it to an end.<BR>Take care of yourself and your little one!<P>Jim-<BR>Dear friend, I always take to heart what you have to say. I am/do pray daily for the both of them. <BR>Like I said, I am not looking to be her friend, and am trying to maintain a acceptable relationship with H because of D.<BR>You are very strong and wise. I appreciate all your support.<BR>Thanks for the prayers!<P>Nic-<BR>Thanks for the prayers, sweetie! I will do my best !<P>Sheryl-<BR>I hope she isn't too bad looking ! I have no expections. I will be strong and wonderful and beautiful!<BR>Love you too!<P>Jill-<BR>I remember when you met OW. I was so proud of you. I hope I can pull this off. I'm starting to get nervous! Yikes!<P>Nikki-<BR>Peace of mind-- AHHH-- That IS what I am hoping for. Closure.<BR>Thanks for your thoughts and prayers/<P>Thank you all. You advice and support and love mean the world to me.<P>I'll let you know what happens!<P>God Bless,<P>Cheryl<BR>

WHEW!!!!! I'm glad that's over!<P>Well, I DID IT! I sat across the table from the woman that stole my H!<P>I arrived on time. I felt all of your prayers as I walked into the restaurant! Thank you all!<P>She IS attrative ( but I guess my H still thinks I am better looking )! We made small talk; nothing to deep.<P>My H was VERY nervous and OW was too (except she didn't really appear to be)<P>They ordered breakfast; I wasn't hungry. This upset my H. I told him that I wasn't going to stay very long, and wasn't hungry.<P>He talked about his relatives (he went to a wedding last week). He said that everyone at the wedding asked how I was doing, etc. (Well, at least THEY haven't forgotten about me!)<P>I wore a smile, was gracious, looked good, and hospitable. <P>OW went to go to the restroom and I told H while she was gone that I was going to go. He told me that he appreciated my 'graciousness'; that he could never have done this. He hugged me (while she was still gone) and said thank you.<P>He also said that she really wants me to be her friend and I told him that I could be courteous and freindly toward her, but that a real friendship would not happen, under the circumstances.<P><BR>She came back to the table and I told her is was nice to meet her. I told them to enjoy their weekend and even gave H tips on where to take her to dinner !<P>So, I am relieved this is over. I didn't even feel any 'bangs' when she called him "baby"! I didn't lose it when I left, I just smiled and thanked God for helping me through it.<P>Thank you for your support and prayers. I really feel like I have "arrived". I was able to show them today that I forgive them, without them even asking for it.<P>THe ball is out of my court now!<P>God Bless,<P>Cheryl<P>PS- OW gave me her business card (blech!!!) <BR>

Hi Cheryl,<P>I'm so glad that it is over with! <BR>WOW! You did it!<P>p.s. That OW has NO class.....but <BR>YOU HAVE class!

Cheryl,<P>My gosh girl....my admiration for you is so very high.<P>You have done something so brave. Do you still have hopes for your marriage Cheryl, or do you feel you have moved on?<P>You have arrived Cheryl. You were classy and held your head high. I'm sure you have given them both a lot to think about. WAY TO GO!<P>allison

Cheryl,<P>I thank God for being with you today ! Now I hope ow's business card doesn't meet with a horrible accident the way parking lot lady's phone number did at my house last week. It just jumped right in to the toilet in little pieces and somehow got flushed ! Terrible terrible *accident*! <P>You stay on the high road, believe me, if nothing else thay or at least she will wonder what you are up to. <P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>Hepatitis C, educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://hepatitis-central.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://hepatitis-central.com/</A>

Cheryl,<BR> You did it! I'm proud of you,I never could of done that(well,I could of,but it might of been pretty messy).You're one classy lady.<BR> Didn't you try to stir the pot,even a little?You know,you could of nonchalantly asked your H,"So,are you still taking that medication for your homicidal disorder?"<BR> But you showed them that you have more integrity than either of them.You're going to do fine.Have a great weekend.<BR> --Murph

Cheryl,<P>I'm not sure it gave you the closure you needed/wanted...<BR>...but it is now done with.<P>Think of <B>you</B> now...<BR>...that is what is much more important.<P>{{{{{hugs}}}}}...<P> <P>Jim

I bet you are glad that is over with.<P>Did you get anything out of all of this?<BR>Does this mean now....that you are going to let your daughter go around her? Just curious.<P>I could not have done it....I know I would have been nice...but when I was leaving I would have had to shake her hand and thank her for screwing up mine and our childrens lives. <P>You are a strong woman<P>Nancy

You are one classy woman Cheryl <P>Good job!!!!! <P>Big Hugs, Sheryl<P>

You all have me in tears. I'm serious. I'm sitting here bawling right now. You are all so very, very dear to me. God bless you all.<P>No Trust-<BR>Yep, I did to it, and it feels really, really good.<BR>I even feel pretty classy right now! <BR>Thanks you.<P>az allision-<P>Honestly, I think today was a turning point for me. As much as I would like my family in tact, I don't see myself turning back. That's not to say, I'm not open for whatever the furture has for me, but meeting her really but closure to this nightmare!<P>I hope I gave them something to think about; if nothing else but to look at who they are and what they are really doing.!<P>Thanks for your encouragement!<P>Deb-<P>God WAS with me today (and every day). I felt His presence with me the whole time I was there.<P>I forgot to tell you that OW business card just happened to fly out of my purse right into the garbage disposal. . Oh, those freak accidents!<P>Thank you for your prayers. Prayers coming your way too. Take care of yourself.<P>Murph-<P>Oh, you DO make me laugh. Medication. HAHAHAHAH! <BR>Nope, no digs. Didn't even feel the urge to. I knew that was what they would have expected. I refrained.<BR>I will have a great weekend! Thanks<P>Jim-<P>I did find the closure I needed. I really feel good about this. As hard as this was for me, I know that I had to do it. I had to face my demons, face to face. I did feel a little like Daniel and the Lions den !<P>Thanks for all your kind words and support. You are a dear man!<P>Mental-<P>Thanks for the encouragment. I do feel strong. God has empowered me.<P>As far as letting her be around my D; not right now. I feel like I am in control of this situation now, and that feels good. She does live out of state, so her frequency here will limit contact anyway.<P>Keep up the good fight, sweetie. You will make it though this!<P>Sheryl-<P>What can I say. Thank you. You are a very special friend to me. I love ya!<P>My friends, this has been a most humbling experience for me, and after today, I really feel like I can move forward with my life. I have an incredible sense of relief, of strength, and wisdom, that I didn't possess a year ago.<P>I miss my H. I miss our life together. But, he has made his choice and I have accepted that. <P>I just want you all to know that God can and does heal broken hearts, and as simple as this sounds, time will heal your wounds. I am a living testament to this. I have grown so much from this. I actually glad I had to go through it. I know now that I am bigger than any circurstances that life my give me, and I know that God has something very special for my life.<P>I do love you all. As simply as that sounds, I do. <P>Take care one and all.<P>God Bless,<P>Cheryl

I am so proud of you CeeCee. You are an amazing woman.<P>------------------<BR>You can't live with them, you can't kill them.<BR>*Viki

Wow! I could never do what you are doing and I've never met the OW in 1 and a half yrs. either. You are very strong and you must have a more than average amount of confidence to suggest such a meeting. Let us know how it goes. I just said a prayer for you.

Hey, Ceecee:<P>I bet you a hundred bucks that H is so bowled over by your dignified perfomance that you will be ON HIS MIND forever. <P>In fact, I would venture a guess that OW probably is having an acute case of jealous twinges after seeing what a lovely woman you are. He may be thinking he traded down to her and that you outclass her. She probably wonders why he is not with you. I bet he is, too.<P>That far away look in his eyes and his kind words about you is probably making her clingy and needy (very unattractive) <BR>She's probably experiencing heartburn from witnessing your H reaction to you.<P>Oh, I hope so. I really, really hope so.<P>You done good.<P>Catnip =^^=

Hey Viki-<P>You are pretty amazing yourself, girl!<BR>Take care of you and your son! I'm hoping to come for a visit in August!! <BR>How are things with you? I only get tidbits from Lori. Let me know, k?<P>Moving On-<P>I'm sorry you have had to deal with this so long. It gets exhausting, doesn't it?<BR>I am confident. I did all I could to save my marriage. That is nothing to be ashamed of. Keep working on yourself. There is light at the end of this icky tunnel!<BR>Thanks for the prayers.<P>Catnip-<P>Oh, how I enjoy your posts! You are quite an inspiration.<BR>Heartburn in the least I hopes she gets !<BR>I'm sure that I was the topic of conversation between them today.<BR>I hope you are right, too! I really do!<BR>Thank you for your insight and support. You are quite a woman!<P>God Bless,<BR>Cheryl

That's my sis!!!<P>You know I'm proud. (Or didn't I already tell you enough!)<P>Talk to you soon.<P>Love, <BR>Lori

ceecee,<BR>Sorry I have not responded until now. You go in with your head up and proud of who you are. Cool heads prevail and I think the OW will leave thinking why in the world would he leave this family. Your H has a track record and his true colors will show with this woman too. He is not doing anything to fix himself, he is just floating along. You will do great.... I will email you too<BR>mkn

hey, im late, but good for you! you did great.<BR>i remember when OW came to my house the first time (7-31-98), and she called me all drunk later and i was practically counseling her through her grief...<BR>ive lost it and been ugly since then, but i still have fond memories of my behavior nonetheless...<BR>congratulations on a job well done!

ceecee......<BR>ooooops, I did not read all the posts, I was later than I thought.... sorry. You done good.... I am proud of you....<BR>Michael