<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by professorg:<BR><B> I stay with her because God asked me to be there for her. ...God wants me to show her His love. I as a man am incapable of such love without His help. God gets all the glory, honor, and praise for my staying.<BR></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>You know, for a while I believed this was true in my case too. I hope you have more conviction and less pride than I do. I couldn't take it any more!<P>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by popeye:<BR><B> You know, for a while I believed this was true in my case too. I hope you have more conviction and less pride than I do. I couldn't take it any more!<P></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Everytime I tell myself that it is time to leave, He slaps me in the face either with scripture that I read at that moment, a sermon I hear on the radio, something I hear on the radio in general, or all of the above and many more.<P>He also keeps me in tune with her pain and why He asked me to marry her. I wasn't going to get married until He told me He wanted me to get married in my last semester of college. I had been out of my previous relationship for 2.5 years. The break up of that relationship resulted in my devotion to Him and no relationship with women other than mother, sister, coworker, friend. I was never going to be hurt again.<P>I was wrong but I know why He asked me to stay with her. He wants me to show her His love in a way that is meaningful to her. She still doesn't have the saving relationship that she thinks she does. If she did, I would never have had to endure 8 possibly 9 affiars. I think she has started another that hasn't gone full bore.<P>As long as I continue to pray and read daily I am certain that I will be with her until she divorces me or I or she dies which ever comes first. Many think that I am being a doormat or trying to be a martyr. I am doing neither. I am merely obey Him and allowing Him to mold me into Jesus's image. With each new day I understand why Paul said what a wretched man that he was. I feel that I am a worm deserving of hell but for the grace of God I am saved and will get to heaven.<P>I am His humble servant by being her humble servant. My whole life is one of servanthood as exemplified by Jesus. I know this doesn't make sense to most but the apostles suffered worse than anything I have gone through for their love of Him. Why shouldn't I do a little suffering in the flesh while my soul and spirit are elated knowing Him.<P>------------------<BR><B><I>God Bless,<BR>Rob</I></B><BR> regilmor@swbell.net

Hey, popeye, I hated THE END OF THE AFFAIR too. I really did. What an utterly joyless movie. The one thing I'll give the director and actors credit for is making an affair look completely un-erotic and unpleasant.<P>Just like the movie.<P>Yeah, I thought that end was pretty bogus. And I just want to take that Ralph Fiennes and smack him, saying, like Cher in Moonstruck, "Snap out of it!!" <P>And as good a treatment as I thought A WALK ON THE MOON was, there's a scene where the wife returns from seeing the OM after her husband finds out, and her son has been stung by wasps, which the OM treats successfully. Not only does her mother-in-law (her husband's mother!) treat the guy nicely, serving him tea, but the husband actually THANKS him. <P>And of course, the OM sees this lovely family and realizes he shouldn't be there.<P>Everyone just too noble and wonderful for words.

Okay...I'm NOT going to see "The End of the Affair"<P>I hate movies about affairs anyway, although it seems like those movies are everywhere!<P>Prior my H's affair, I was able to watch these types of movies. Now that I have a life-experience in this, and being the betrayed, these movies are difficult for me to watch.<P>Anyone else feel this way now after betrayal?

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by NoTrust:<BR><B>Prior my H's affair, I was able to watch these types of movies. Now that I have a life-experience in this, and being the betrayed, these movies are difficult for me to watch.<P>Anyone else feel this way now after betrayal?</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>YES! The first time I cruised past Jerry Springer after finding out, I just wanted to vomit and slit my wrist from the hopelessness in society, the acceptance of running around, and the cavalier attitudes friends and family have about it. Don't people's feeling matter? Doesn't commitment matter? Are people tuning into this stuff to feel better about what they've done? It's simply disgusting. I've never liked Jerry Springer and have always been able to see the wrong in movies that portray this as "love", but now I react so strongly to it. Just can't stand it.<P>

Jerry Spring show is really a circus! I can't believe they find people to actually be guests on that show. Only funny thing is when a betrayer goes up to justify himself/herself, everyone gets pissed off and boos them.