Hi Desiree,<P>You know I couldn't resist this one... <P>FYI... a couple of posts on <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A> letters...<BR>1. <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/009414.html" TARGET=_blank>Sample Plan B letter (see Chris' reply)</A>...and...<BR>2. <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/010065.html" TARGET=_blank>Sample Plan B letter (from PLEASE HELP)</A>.<P>I hope they help!!!<P>There are a few key sentences from "the book" you <B>cannot</B> leave off...<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><I>I am willing to avoid the mistakes I've made in the past and create a new life for <B>both of us</B> that will meet your needs...<B>and</B>... I still love you but I cannot see you under these onditions...<B>and</B>... I want to be your best friend, someone who is always there for you when you need me...<B>and</B>.. I continue to love you right up to this day.</I><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I hope this helps...<P>I'll be watching you closely...<BR>I feel I'll be joining you Jan/Feb... <P>Prayers... <P>Jim

Jim, <P>I knew you would come through for me!!! Thanks so much.<P>Now my printer at home is broken, but first thing tomorrow at work I will print off izzys and the two others here with the quotes from the book and compose a persoanlized letter.<P>Notes from Steve Harley on the PlanB letter:<P>- Make it VERY clear that I still love him<BR>- List the things I have done wrong<BR>- List the things I'm willing to do and how I have changed<BR>- Make sure I say that I am doing this because he is still seeing the OW and this hurts me too much<BR>- Tell H I still want to meet his needs and to learn from my own mistakes - but I just can't handle it with his continued involvment with the OW<BR>- Tell him as soon as he stops, I want to work with him fof a better marriage.<P>OK, I will compose my letter tomorrow and send to Steve. After I get it back from Steve I will post here. It might be helpful for others considering PlanB.<P>Jim, thanks, again, friend! <P>Desiree<BR><P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>