Boozy:<P>Having been left twice and having experienced the two different ways of handling it, I definitely recommend letting go. Last time I walked away with my respect at least. He knows how I feel and I've demonstrated my willingness to work on the relationship. So I leave the ball in his court and I live my life.<P>Your plans seem excellent...wish I had found this board when my first time around started...I think I would have never had a second time. Having never experienced difficulty with infidelity (or unhappiness with the marriage) I didn't know where to turn when it happened to me. Now I do, and if anything happens I come here to see if someone else has dealt with something similar and has a solution or something to try.<P>If nothing else your wife will appreciate your respect for her through all this...and your patience and unconditional love.<P>Keep us informed of how you're doing.<P>Buffy<p>[This message has been edited by buffy (edited July 24, 2000).]

Hi Belle:<P>I was just telling Resilent (Jo) that H has taken OW to Tyler to check on a job. The only time she talks about moving is when she's upset about something and wants to shake him up. Oh yeah, something definitely happened this weekend. The "soulmates" must be getting holes in thier "souls" and the road getting a little rocky. <P>Forgive me for levity, but I acheived a small victory this morning and I'm happy. I was able to bit my tongue and not ask "What's going on" about the trip to Tyler and job...and he expected me to ask. His head must have been swimming. Doesn't she care? <P>Enough of that. God's taking care of him. <P>As for your "old dog," would that we all are <BR>afforded the same...that on the day we die, at the moment of our death, we could look into the face of someone who loves us and know that we were loved. <P>Sometimes God gives us that opportunity to be there at the right time and the right place, for the rest we'll just have to know that they go to a place where someone who loves them awaits.<P>Some of my best friends have been dogs...they're always there when you need them and their love is unconditional...as long as you love them back.<BR> <BR>Oh, I thought I said I was happy. Almost started to cry there.<P>Buffy<BR>