Forest,<P>I replied back to you on the other thread since you replied there.<P>It IS important to start identifying needs and not keep spinning.<P>Read His Needs/ Her Needs. After really trying to grasp what is being said (and it took me several tries) sit down with the questionnaire. Then ask, if you had the ideal wife what one thing would you have to have? If you could have two, what second one would you add? That's the clearest way to rate the needs.<P>I think we make it harder than it is. My h, like many men has Sex, Domestic Support and a Good Looking Spouse in that order.<P>She needs to know as much for herself as for you. You are not in-love with her and she wants to deposit love units, show her how!!!<P>Lady DI, I too asked why, why...<P>He couldn't tell me, but I figured it out. She thought he was hot s**t. Yes, ego, admiration, it is a very legitimate need. We're all looking for "love".