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Empty Shell<P>I will be so glad when my desire to check up on her is gone. I fight that every day. We have 2 D's but they're not old enough for soccer yet. My W and I had a medium misunderstanding last night. For some reason we have a hard time expressing ourselves to each other. We try and say one thing but either something else gets said or the other person doesn't understand. But we were able to work out that particular situation. Uh oh lunch is over got to go. Thanx for all your advice.<BR>

pegasus -- <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I will be so glad when my desire to check up on her is gone. I fight that every day.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>That is very good. Keep fighting. As trust is rebuilding, it can take very little sometimes to send you flying back to the edge of darkness.<P>to me it is very much like forgiveness itself. It's something you have to simply do. PERIOD. It can be very hard, and you may find yourself wondering if you did the "right thing", but believe me, it is the right thing. <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>My W and I had a medium misunderstanding last night. For some reason we have a hard time expressing ourselves to each other. We try and say one thing but either something else gets said or the other person doesn't understand. But we were able to work out that particular situation.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE> Hey, this is all part of the healing process. We all go through it to one degree or another. At least you were able to get past this episode.<P>A suggestion which both you and TechGirl may want to consider is this. If you are still having troubles communicating over "touchy" subjects, come here and post about it. Both of you. Start your own threads if need be and get advise and opinons form anyone offering. It might help you to understand each other a little better. My W and I have done this a few times in the past, and it has seemed to help us, when we have used that option.<P>Just a suggestion though.<P>TechGirl -- I hope that you are not upset with me for the things I have said to you and your H. I'm only trying to help if I can.<P>God Bless

Empty Shell<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>A suggestion which both you and TechGirl may want to consider is this. If you are still having troubles<BR> communicating over "touchy" subjects, come here and post about it. Both of you. Start your own threads if need be<BR> and get advise and opinons form anyone offering. It might help you to understand each other a little better. My W<BR> and I have done this a few times in the past, and it has seemed to help us, when we have used that option.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>LOL. Um that was what lead to the misunderstanding. She didn't understand what I was trying to say in one of these post and then she wrote something else and I misunderstood. It was tense for a little while, but we kissed and made up. I know there are some things I still have to work real had on but hopefully she will see that I am trying.

pegasus -- <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>She didn't understand what I was trying to say in one of these post and then she wrote something else and I misunderstood.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>One thing you need to realize if you are going to use this type of approach. . .You need to continue the approriate threads until you both understand. Use this forum as the place to work through and figure out the issues, until you are ready, willing and able to have the conversations one on one.<P>Hope it helps.<P>God Bless

Thanks, everyone, for all your help.<BR>Yes, we had a slight missunderstanding last night... my . message was a long one because I missunderstood what he was saying in the thread and then he misread my post.. LOL<BR>I'll try to get here more often though <BR>Thanks again!<BR>Empty Shell-<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>TechGirl -- I hope that you are not upset with me for the things I have said to you and your H. I'm only trying to help if I can.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><BR>Nope, I expected to hear advice, not to be coddled... I am thankful for it all

TechGirl -- <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>my . message was a long one because I missunderstood what he was saying in the thread and then he misread my post<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>I can understand very well misunderstanding or misinterprting something my W has written here.<P>Without going back to look this up, I think that your H said discovery was about 2 months ago. Things are still very new for you both. You both probably have very raw nerves at this stage. This is normal and very much to be expected. Give each other a chance, things can and will improve for you both.<P>God Bless