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The maintenance of this post has now been accepted by <B>OneGoing</B>...<BR>...our <B>Just found out...</B> moderator.<P>The lastest and greatest of this post can be reached at the new <BR>===><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders</A>.<P>I'll still be around though...<P> ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>Jim/NSR<p>[This message has been edited by OneGoing (edited December 29, 2000).]
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Great, Jim. We'll keep this at the top.<P>Lori
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UP TO THE TOP FOR EVERYBODY
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I had originally written: <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Another excellent post which should definitely be kept at or near the top.<P>Thanks, NSR!<BR>Please email me.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>However I feel compelled to indicate that was my position PRIOR to the recent (11/5/2000) edit of NSR's original post to the current first post on this thread. I am concerned about the location of this information off of the MB website.<P>------------------<BR><B>Tempest</B>, Moderator<BR>Marriage Builders<BR>Infidelity Forum<p>[This message has been edited by Tempest (edited December 07, 2000).]
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UP UP UP UP UP UP UP UP UP UP<P>Thank you very much for this post! I have been posting on and off for 4 or 5 months. I never took the time to look around and I think this is wonderful. Thank you for your efforts and time in creating this for us! It's greatly appreciated!<P>LadyK<BR><><
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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by NSR:<BR><B>Welcome to the Marriage Builders - Infidelity Forums.<P>The people here represent both betrayed spouses and betrayers(waywards) alike and the occasional Other Woman/Man/Person (OW/OM/OP).<BR> All</B> of us are really here to try and build or rebuild our marriages... and we are trying to use principles and concepts that are espoused by Dr. Willard Harley of Marriage Builders(MB). Sometimes the acronyms are overwhelming... check out a summary of them <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000008.html" TARGET=_blank>HERE</A>.<P>There is a wealth of information here at this site, starting from the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/" TARGET=_blank>Marriage Builder's Home Page</A>.<P>If you're new to the ideas being presented here at MB start off with <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3000_intro.html" TARGET=_blank>Dr. Harley's Basic Concepts</A>.<P>Many of us need to start immediately working on our marriages and a <B>sound</B> understanding of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A and Plan B</A> is crucial! For most everyone... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>... s anexcellent starting point!<P>You'll see a barrage of "terms" which you might guess the meaning of... but an alternative is to look up what they mean at this site... Words like (click on them to find out):<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busters</A>, <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3200_love.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Bank</A>, <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3300_needs.html" TARGET=_blank>Emotional Needs</A>, <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3550_give.html" TARGET=_blank>Giver and Taker</A>, <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3500_policy.html" TARGET=_blank>The Policy of Joint Agreement(POJA)</A>.<P>You'll need to learn more about, not just marriage building... but self building too! The learning isn't going to happen overnight though... look at the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8100_article.html" TARGET=_blank>Articles</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5525_qa.html" TARGET=_blank>Infidelity Q&A</A>.<BR>The real learning is best aided by obtaining some of the books from the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6000_bookstore.html" TARGET=_blank>MB Bookstore</A>... of most important for those who have affairs in progress, or soon to be, is <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6070_sa.html" TARGET=_blank>"Surviving An Affair"</A> by Dr. Willard Harley. <B>This is the 'bible' for this forum.</B><BR>Other books can be very useful as well... like <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6020_needs.html" TARGET=_blank>"His Needs, Her Needs"</A>, <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6030_love.html" TARGET=_blank>"Love Busters"</A>, and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6010_give.html" TARGET=_blank>"Give & Take: The Secret to Marital Compatibility"</A>.<BR>There will be many other good books that the MB people will recommend... take their advice... they've been around. There is a post that lists many of these non-Harley book recommendations... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000025.html" TARGET=_blank>Books</A>.<P>Most of all... you will find <B>compassion</B> and <B>love</B> here. No judging... no demeaning... no malice here! This is true, not just for those betrayed... but the wayards as well!<BR>The people here have all had their lives thrown into a whirlwind of despair, confusion, and sadness.<BR>We've all experience gut wrenching emotions that we though could never exist, in anyone's idea of humanity.<BR>Feelings of hatred, love, disillusionment, envy, rejection, emptiness, <B>deep depression</B>, and on and on... Again, these are felt not just by those betrayed... but in time by the waywards too.<P>Just the books and facts aren't going to get you through it all... not without <B>support</B>. That's where <B>we</B> come in! <B>We</B> care... because <B>we</B> know how it feels. Believe it... <B>You are <I>not</I> alone</B>! <BR>Come to this forum to vent... to cry... to laugh (a little)... to express your feelings... to advise others... or just to get away!<BR>You're probably going through H*!! right now... don't go it alone... remember... <B>you are <I>not</I> alone</B>! <P>There is never any guarantee to save all marriages... life doesn't work that way, unfortunately.<BR>We can, and do guarantee, to give you help... to build back many vital aspects of your life and sanity. <P>Post... Post... Post... Reply... Reply... Reply... READ! READ! READ!<P>I've been speaking in behalf of some dear friends... as well as some complete strangers too..., when I've used <B>"we"</B>!<BR>But... if you're here... join in with them... they <B>will</B> join in with you. <B>We</B> do not always agree with each other on how to handle situations... but each of us is offering to you advice based on individual experiences. Search out those people on the forum that have experiences similar to yours... and ask... ask... ask! <P>To help us understand your situation a bit better, and for you to get more responses, it is recommended that you update your profile with some measure of information. Information similar to that found in the ===><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000037.html" TARGET=_blank>Roll Call</A> post would be appreciated.<BR><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>My I suggest that you suggest New Comers make MB their HOME page?<P>I have found this to be an excellent way to take a few quick mintues to read, re-read LB, Basic Concepts, etc. Then one can go on to wherever they were headed. Helps me keep on track. (I have been lurking since Feb. 1st - just started posting yesterday.) Doing well.<P>V.
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Up we go again! Welcome all!
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Thank you for keeping this at the top . . . I really appreciate it! <P> <P><P>------------------<BR>Listen to your heart and your head . . . between the two you can find happiness.
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TOPPY, TOPPY, TOPPY!!<BR> ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/grin.gif) <P>------------------<BR>We can do all things through Christ which strengthens us. Repeat that 5 times a day. I promise you success!
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Top again.. thanks Jim!
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NSR,<BR>Great post!!!! Thank you!! <BR>Annc
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Top again. Thanks NSR. Have a great trip!
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