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#400088 01/25/00 05:21 PM
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Saw your reply to jungle princess. <BR>I am sorry for your reason for being here, but welcome. If you haven't already, check out NSR's General Welcome for All New Builders several posts below on this forum. <BR>Kathi

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Thanks, Kathi. I've been doing a heck of a lot of reading on this web site. I'm finding it more and more informative everyday. The wealth of information and support here is amazing.<P>Thanks for the welcome. I hope I too, will be able to help other people in the similar situation.<P>Dana<BR>

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I saw in your post that your husband has alcohol problems, other issues and that you are not sure if you want to work things out. Since all that is out of my experience, I don't feel like I can give advice! I do know there are a couple of folks on here with similar stories, tho...so maybe they will. I'd post your story as a new post if you want more feedback. Do you have kids, or is it just the 2 of you? Hang in there--<BR>Kathi<BR>

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purplemag,<P>If you haven't seen it yet, this Q&A article may be helpful...<A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5048a_qa.html" TARGET=_blank>What to Do with an Alcoholic Spouse</A>.<P> [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Jim

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It's just the two of us. No kids, thank goodness. That's something we both decided before we ever got married. <P>The alcohol is the biggest problem, and he's finally coming to grips with that now. We've talked repeatedly about it over the years, and it just hurts that much more that it took this for it to finally sink in.<P>What I'm afraid the most of is him "falling off the wagon" or "slipping up". I've been through so much with this relationship. I don't think I can take another falter.<P>Feel free to post whereever you think I might get the best help/advice. I really appreciate the caring attitude of everyone on the board, especially yours.<P>Thanks so much.<BR>D<BR>

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Thanks, Jim!<P>I've already printed it out, highlighted the areas that pertained to our relationship most, and most of all the other reading material I thought pertinent to our issue, and have given it to him for "good betime reading". <P>I've just found out about the OW on Thursday. I received a letter in the mail from her H. Go figure. My H fessed up after I confronted him about it on Friday. He's been sleeping in the guest room ever since.<P>Mind you, we've just moved in to our first house 12/22. Another go figure. I think I'm still in shock that he actually admitted it. <P>What hurts the most is now he's willing to quit the drinking, quit the extra curriculars - volleyball and such, and go to counseling. All which was adamately opposed to before this. He said he's "born again". And all the good stuff.<P>I'm kind of tired of talking about it, my friends, I love them, but it seems like too much sometimes. When I want to just forget, something pops up to remind me.<P>Thanks for the advice with the article. I hope maybe it'll sink in his brain as well.<P>D


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