Silvress,<BR>How are you doing? I'm feeling a little better because we finally had sex for the first time since his "I love OW" day. He had been sleeping in the other bedroom, I think he was avoiding that to happen. Somehow he changed his mind last night, or maybe he was just due... I can't be picky about setup anyway under this circumstance, whatever works, I'll do it...<P>Silvress, if your H doesn't want to have sex w/you, he could refuse or avoid, but he didn't. It could be a selfish reason for him, or he could say whatever, but he still does have feelings for you. Everything happened so quickly, a month yet? I know both of you don't know what to think all of this, things aren't settled yet for either of you. Something is going to change, I just know it.<P>How often do you contact him? What was the longest you didn't call him or see him? I just thought you might want to try to leave him completely off for awhile, and see his reaction. It's like a trial planB for a short term. While you're doing that, you may want to go see your family and spend some time w/them, or go shopping or go have some fun. Job searching is good too. I'm saying this because when I went off to my 2 nights trip, when I started looking for a job, when I talked about moving and building my own ground, that's when my H shifted towards staying together. PlanA is no fun and so hard, but when I started looking into PlanB and enjoying my life, that's when things got a little better.<P>My H never left (so far) and I don't know how difficult it is for you, so I guess really can't help you that way, but I know there are lot of people dealing with close or even worse situation than yours. Why don't you post in General Questions, I bet you'll get experts' advise and more encouragement. I go there all the time so I will keep up with your posts, anywhere. I really think you need more help from other people, you are in a really tough situation.<P>But don't ever think that I'll leave you alone! I hope you are doing well, and catch up with you soon!<P>Amy
