Dear Shocker,<BR>Thanks for your reply. I am sorry that you to have had to go through this pain. I am dealing with it day by day. Sundays seem the worst for me because I found out on a Sunday evening. It was my worst nightmare. We are making it so far. He deeply regrets it. It's easier for him to forget about it then it is me though...I am still living it in my mind...it isn't over for me yet. He doesn't want to talk about it so I don't ask anymore questions. I know in time the hurt will lessen and we will be a better couple for it. Yes, the books you've mentioned are wonderful. I am still reading His Needs, Her Needs and Surving an Affair. They are wonderful books. I'll have to look into After the Affair. <BR>Thanks!<BR>God Bless!! I pray that both our futures will be happier ones spent with the ones we love. <P><BR><p>[This message has been edited by 6unfaithfulmonthsHURTS (edited May 20, 2001).]