My mother-in-law tells me "What comes around, goes around...." That I need to move forward and things will take care of itself. This OW will get what she deserves because "What comes around, goes around...."<P>My H is already paying dearly for his mistakes. He lives with the guilt and what he did cannot be erased.<P>Does anyone else believe, "What comes around, goes around?"

NoTrust,<P>Yes,<P>I'm a firm believer in it...<BR>whether it's here on earth... or beyond!<P>Jim

NoTrust,<P>I not only believe it! I know it does. Seen it happen so many times. It is the old "You reap what you sow" thing and people do pay. I am old enough to see people really paying for stuff they pulled much earlier in life.<P>Your Mother-in-Law is right in my book.<P>JL

Oh absolutely. "As you sow, so shall you reap."

NoTrust - I sure as heck hope so. <P>Lori

I also hope so.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

Hi, <P>Most definitly, their bad karma will get them in the end.<P>Jason

Pay back is hard!!!<P>I'm paying for neglecting W's needs, unfortunately for her she too will have to pay somehow, sometime. And this goes also for OP.<P>------------------<BR>If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about Trust and Awareness.

ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!!<P>And now all I hope for is that when it does come around to the OW it hits her twice as hard as it hit me I hope, I hope, I hope, I hope ...................<P><BR>Yup-there is a mean streak in my body !!

I dream of it and only wish I could help it "go around" alittle sooner!!!!!

I call it Karma... and it does indeed bite you in the butt.<P>But remember guys, there are some betrayers who stop the affairs, are remorseful, and pay daily... me being one of them...<P>God will get the bad guys, but not all of us are hateful awful people who are out to ruin families...<P>Just a thought.

Of course! LOL

How many times have I thought of that one, and how very true it is.<P>And sometimes, payback can be even worse than what was originally dealt.

I think that judgement belongs only to God. We humans want to decide what God will punish and what he won't but what can't. In my case, I had an affair for nearly two years. It tore me apart. After being a Christian all my life, I even stopped going to church near the end. But I found my way back and with prayer, I found the strength to end the affair. Now as I have said before, the man I had an affair with is getting divorced and has contacted me. We are back together again. He had no way of knowing I would stil be available. We had not even talked once for a year and a half. I have prayed with my pastor many times over the last two years over this. I feel God has forgiven me and he is not going to punsish me because I am truly sorry for my sin. <P>Even though I am know with my affair partner, we are abstaining from sex until we can marry. I think a lot of people forget that fornicating is just as much a sin as adultery. Now I do think that his almost XW probably thinks God will punsish me, but I don't think he will. I have repented and I am no longer on that path. Why would God punish me now?<P>Delphi

I forgot to say also that if God won't forgive this sin of adultery when I am very repentent, why would he forgive any sins like fornicating, lying, stealing and others? I think there isn't anyone who hasn't broekn the ten commandments. God knows we are human and he alway forgives us if we are sorry. I think God always forgives us when we are truly sorry. That is the wonderful thing about being a Christian.<P>Del

<BR>Karma, karma, karma. Any deed you do plants a seed in your mind (it even etches a physiological trace in your brain). At SOME point that "seed" will come into contact with a set of external conditions that cause that seed to ripen, and BANG!<P>The Buddhists define karma as "mental impressions" you've created in your own mind from your previous actions, as opposed to the Hindu idea that karma is some absolute external law forcing us to and fro according to its dictates. Regardless, both say that karma doubles every day, meaning that the longer it goes on unripened, the worse it's gonna be when it does (if it's bad karma, good karma the same).<P>Of course karma only works as a belief if you accept the theory of rebirth or an afterlife in some form, as otherwise there would be no "person" there to feel the effects of it.<P><BR>

I believe in what goes around...I have to!! Thats what I keep teling myself. I want that woman at work to know how it feels<P>------------------<BR><BR>Lara

My H has always been interested in Buddism and believes in reincarnation - I have to wonder what he expects to come back as.

HI NoTrust,<BR> I PROMISE you "reap what you sow"<BR> I'm embarressed to say that I had an affair with a married woman 20+ years ago.<BR> My W is NOW having an affair. If I had known the PAIN I inflicted on her poor H I would have jumped in front of a bus rather than carry on the affair. <BR> She just made me think I was "saving" her.<BR> <P>GOD PLEASE FORGIVE ME!! FRANK <P> P.S. I've actually talked to her recently to find out how her H got her back. I was glad I didn't RUIN their marriage forever!!

As most of you know, I've been on both sides of this thing.<P>What I'm about to say will sound foreign to some, I'm sure...<P>I've come to learn that it isn't worth my time to worry and wonder if the OW's or OM or me or my H will be "paid back" for the pain we've endured/caused. <P>Life is fragile and precious. I've been pounded to the ground by what has occured thus far. Is it God's doing, or mine, or my H's, or just the Universe spinning around and doing what it does so well... just goes on no matter what happens in our lives?<P>I no longer care who gets punished because the point is, we are all getting punished in ways that none of us is aware of. Half the time, people who hurt us seemingly go on without any punishment whatsoever, and maybe we never know that they're suffering with diseases, or losing their homes, or their families, or their sanity. Or maybe they still "have it all" but they will reap their rewards in Heaven.<P>We have all made mistakes in our lives, and we will all answer for them. <P>Pain, pain, pain is everywhere, folks. Do we need more on the earth? <P>As I said earlier - Karma... it will come back to bite you, but in the meantime, you can alter <B>how you will react</B> to things by getting your life right, and back on track again. I'm not talking a specific religious experience, although it can be that, but rather I speak of a change of paradigm. And that change involves TRUTH. Keep your eyes open, see what part you play here, and bring truth back into your life and the lives of those you interact with. <P>Sorry, getting kinda mushy and deep here, but I am so tired of the pain. It's time...and I want to reach out and grab MY LIFE back!