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NW<P>I do wish you weren't leaving. I have learned so much from you. I understand that we all have our opinions and that many of us get defensive, particularly on a bad day. But, I must tell you, before you go, that I have a great deal of respect for your courage, your determination and the compassion you have shown in your posts here. <P>I read much on this sight that reflects my own feelings. I read some that I really disagree with. But I read even more of the things that make me think, challenge me to view life and marriage in a way that I had not thought about before. Your posts have helped me to do that. And that has made me a better person.<P>If you go, we will all be losing a great companion. I agree you must do what's in your own best interests, but, if you do ever reconsider, please know that there are many people here who miss you and will welcome your input once again.<P>Best of luck to you.<P>-Lori

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I don't know if this will do any good new woman but please don't go. There are some of us here who still have things that we can learn from you. Maybe you could take a break for awhile and then come back or just post occasionaly but I think we need your opinion and experiences here. Please don't go. I think you are the first person who has seen things from both the betrayer's position and the betrayed position. Please let some of us learn from your experiences and feelins etc<P>If that is not possible please email me ******edit**** I would still like to hear from you and maybe learn from you.

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Please don't leave. You really give alot of wisdom to this board. What most of us are looking for is honest answers and you have been able to supply those. If you need totake a break that's fine but please don't leave for good.<P>Jill

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Boy! I'm really late... but to toss in my thoughts: don't let anyone push you into leaving if you don't want to go. You and I have had some wonderful connections on this board, partly because we both have been betrayed and betrayer. I figure that folks get mad sometimes and they'll get over it... if they don't - that's THEIR problem. I'll miss you... best wishes to you and your H!

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new woman,<P>Do what you feel is necessary. We all take a beating in one way or another on this forum. It's virtually impossible to be a long time poster without offending someone at one point. Most of the time it is unintensional. We are all going through our own personal hell. Depending on what stage we are in, sometimes we are down right bitter and angry at whoever crosses our path. If we knew one another personally, we would be much more careful of our message, but we would also lose that openness that we all enjoy. <P>So, if indeed you decide to stop. I understand. At some point, we all have to move on. Your insight has given many of us help and something to think about. The fact that you and your H are healing very well shows you have a lot to offer to us in rebuilding our marriages - that will be missed. <P>Best wishes to you and your H.<P>SHA

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New Woman-<BR>I understand if you feel you must leave, just wish you wouldn't. Since my H won't discuss affair w/me, I value the insight gained from the betrayers experience. So I suppose this is my personal plea for your reconsideration. I do, however, understand your position on this. Hope this is not goodbye, but if it is, Good Luck, God Bless and Thank You.

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NW,<P>If you are still reading the board...<P>I think that it takes guts to completely come out with your feelings and what you've been through, and you have always been so forthright with your posts, always meant to help others. I think you've added a tremendous amount of insight here, and I feel that your posts have always been so much of my own story (betrayed/betrayer)..and your feelings are so much like my own.<P>You and your H have worked hard toward what you have now, you've learned so much about one another, and have developed a wonderful relationship. The effort was well worth the reward in the long run, I know. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] Take good care of yourself, and I hope to see you post again..<P>Madelyn<p>[This message has been edited by Madelyn (edited August 24, 1999).]

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new woman, I don't think people want you to leave here [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] And I count myself among those who don't, as well. We will never all agree about everything, and we all can come across to someone else as offensive... it's part of the drawback of the printed word, especially in this type of venue. Few people have ever been "asked" to leave here - My suggestion to most is that if you don't like my posts on a regular basis, well, then, don't read 'em. I don't think I tick off everyone all the time, but I know I've said some things with which some have vehemently disagreed...<P>Anyhow, as I ramble on here, I do hope you will reconsider and stay on here. Take a break (I've done it - generally don't announce it, just do it) if you feel the need, but don't leave us completely unless you can't get anything from the forum anymore...<P>Hey, Tempest, the only authority that can, hasn't ever told you to back off, right? So there ... [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<BR><P>------------------<BR>terri<BR>No, I'm not a Marriage Counselor,<BR>But I did sleep at a <BR>Holiday Inn Express last night...<BR>

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