Hugs To you {{{{{{SEAHORSE}}}}}} and everyone else!

I had to drag our posts out and dust them off. Mine more than yours.

Wow! I just finished catching up with you! Is it official yet????!!!! Are you FREE??!!!!!

I can not wait to see how you are doing. I hope it feels like a weight has been lifted or the clouds have cleared. I'm sure you are upset but I know I feel like a black cloud follows me with my H's name on it. I can not wait to get closure and move on.

I am glad to hear you are busy. I hope your move went well. SS is right enjoy this precious time with your Dad. Get to know him again.
Give your dog a big hug and kiss from me.

Someday I hope we get to meet.

Please come back soon and let us know how you are! I am thinking about you!
Love,
Forgiver

Hi Liz,

I don't expect a diary, but let us know when you have loose ends tied up, and it would be nice to know your boss didn't chew you up and spit you out. I expect you have dated more, and we - um, we, well, we are CONCERNED.

( was that the best way to show we care?)

Want to know that you are emotionally healthy, and reasonally happy - considering what is happening to you.

SS

Sometimes I get to thinking, even though it is hard for someone with my limited capacity.

I was thinking about you today - wondering how the job is treating you. Hoping you get along with your Dad Ok. I suspect you have nothing new to report, and maybe there is still some pain associated with relationships issues.

I just wanted to continue encouraging you. It's good that you make plans and go on to your life. I still think you will have a mostly happy life. It may take another year for your emotions to settle down ( and you may be there right now, and I just don't know it yet) but I believe your life will be rewarding and happy for the most part.

One of the hard things for me is applying the lessions I learn here. Old habbits are hard to kill. New ones hard to train into being.

Keep thinking about things, keep working to make them better. Keep believing.

Later Edit
BTW, I know this is your thread, and that I am a guest here. I just came by to say hi, and don't expect you to post back. ( not always sure why I get the feeling to post to someone.) Just so you know.

SS

<small>[ July 25, 2003, 03:17 PM: Message edited by: still seeking ]</small>

Hi Guys!

(((((((Forgiver)))))) - I was stoked to read your post (that's good by the way). I'm so happy that you are happy. You deserve the absolute best and I think of you and wonder how you do. I may be heading US/Sth America way at the end of the year - I will keep posting anyway about what I'm doing. My Dog got that hug from you by the way.

Yes I am free now. My D was finalised on the 25th of July. The day went by quietly. I peped myself up with a glass of champagne and a soak in a warm bath. I was gentle with myself. It still makes me sad to think about it, but I know I am better off. I am happy more than I'm sad, hopeful more than scared and even have times when I feel utter joy in being alive.

SS - you are like a caring father. Yes I'm with my dad. We are having some settling in issues, but I'm working it out. Dad has been depressed for a while and wants me to take him out a lot. I love my dad and I do some things with him, but I'm a 32 year old woman and he is a 76 year old man and we have very different interests. I feel very guilty at times when he wants to come along to things and I cannot take him, but this is about boundaries and balance. He needs to find friends his age and who have the same interests. So I'm leading by example.

He loves my dog and takes him walking each day- so the dog gets two walks and has someone home for most of the day - it would seem the dog has benefitted majorly from the situation.

Personally, I am having a ball. I'm out and about and like Forgiver (the pioneer) I have increased my circle of friends somewhat. I have found 'my thing' in Salsa dancing - I enjoy it tremendously and will be trying out for the advanced class this week. I still SCUBA dive, but its winter here so I've not gone for a while - I'm absolutely itching to go for a dive!

Well SS, I haven't had a date in a few months, mainly because of the move and that I haven't been putting myself out there in that way. The way I was going about it just wasn't working for me, so I'm doing what I enjoy and seeing what comes up from that. There is a person I'm interested in and I'm fairly sure he's interested, but I need things to move slowly and darn it, he has to chase me, so I'm just going to be me and hopefully it will drive him nuts enough to to do that. (Does this sound like a new Seahorse?) After all the years of not being single its a big adjustment and I'm learning, sometimes the hard way.

Work's still not great SS. I am looking seriously for another job as things are not changing and this is not working for me anymore.

I have to go but I will be back soon. Take Care all

Seahorse -- I am so glad you posted. I've just been lurking every once in awhile and was so relieved to read your post to hear that you are ok.

You sound well and that the 25th went by with just some residual sadness.

I have prepared the initial paperwork to file for a divorce and will have it delivered to my WH tomorrow. He was in another country for almost the entire month of July with the OW. I also heard that the OW pitched a fit when my WH came to my father's funeral -- what a selfish @#TCH. Even if we were divorced I think he would still come as he did love and respect my father.

I haven't seen WH in almost two months and told him to stop communicating with me after he sent me the letter while on vacation with OW stating he did not really want to pursue a divorce and he still loved me. Too much drama and too painful.

The whole thing makes me sad, but no longer makes me incapacitated.

I am hopefully going to get to meet Elad next week if all works out and we can connect while I am on vacation. I would love to meet you too sometime.

I just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you and am so happy that you are on the road to your new life -- it will be full of love and happiness, I just know it. I can feel it.

Best to you.

Hi Seahorse,

Just so you know, I still think about you. Not likely we would forget.

Salsa Dancing, hmmmmmm, I think I'm more like your dad on that one. I could watch though.
Do they let wheelchairs on the sidelines?

Just kidding, I have 4 sons between the ages of 17 and 25 and they expect me to do things with them. No rest for the wicked. The latest thing is full suspension mountain bikes. Oh well.

I was glad to see balance in your last post. I don't worry as much - but still pray for you.

I sit and think some more, and get a calm feeling about you. It feels good.

SS

Getting close now. I was thinking about it yesterday.

My dog passed away a few weeks ago. He was almost 12, but big dogs are usually not as long lived as small ones. He was fine in July, and by the end of August he was gone. I am glad he did not linger in bad health. Somehow it bothered me more than I thought it would. That's about as much as I've said about me, isn't it. I had better go on.

I believe you are doing well. I believe you must have processed things by now, and are healing emotionally. I am sure you will have a good life if you continue to do what you have learned here.

It may take time for you to come back around, I won't (try not to anyway) worry.

SS

I'll be gone the 23rd and the 24th, so I'm wishing you happy birthday now.

Happy Birthday.
Probably better if I don't sing.

SS

Hi Guys, sorry I've not been back for a long time, but life is one big whirlwind at the moment.

I am doing really well.

Work is very busy and I'm still looking for something else. I am dealing with the problems there although they continue to bubble and smolder.

I am off to Argentina and Mexico in 8 weeks. I cannot wait. I've not had a holiday in over a year and I very much need one.

My dancing is going fabulously (salsa). I'm in advanced class now mainly due to a pretty good teacher. I go to lessons 2 times a week and social dancing at least twice a week. I'm having an absolute ball and I know so many people now, many more than I ever had - its like a family and many people are in an 'older' age bracket and have been through a dv or break up, so its a supportive atmosphere.

There's even someone I'm quite interested in, but I'm taking things very slow! But I did raise enough courage to ask him out for coffee and he said yes. My friends were very proud of me and if nothing else comes of it I feel that it was a good exercise in overcoming fear.

SS my birthday went well although quiet. Happy Birthday to you too. I actually got a Happy Birthday email from xH - I hadn't heard from him for 3 months and there it was. I just replied with a thank you and deleted it. That part of my life is closed. It was more surprising than upsetting.

USH I hope you are well. I hope that things are turning out OK for you.

My dad and dog are both well. They enjoy each others company!

Anyway I must run.
Love you all
Liz

Seahorse:

Thanks for keeping us posted! It's so good 2 hear stories like yours from people who've had 2 DV.

Best regards,
-kid 2long

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Seahorse:
<strong>I am off to Argentina and Mexico in 8 weeks. I cannot wait. I've not had a holiday in over a year and I very much need one.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Liz,
Any plan to keep going north ?. There are plenty of Salsa club here in SF. Beside we might have SFBayAreaMBer V by then ...

I am happy that you are recovering well.
-rh-

Hi Liz,

So good to hear from you. Wow lady, you are definitely a woman on the go. I am jealous!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I am glad to see you moving forward. You are an encouragement to us all.

Have a fun trip and if you chance to fly by or over northern CA (look for the golden gate bridge), wave..... Lots of MBers out this way. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hugz,
L.

Merry Christmas Liz, Merry Christmas, and keep doing well.

SS