It's sad that we all have to be in this kind of boat. Whatever happened to the vows of marriage?<p>Too many stories sound like mine and it makes me so nervous to do this. What hapens if my W is still in touch with him and it looks more serious then before? DO I hold off until they decide to meet in person? I may have to go to Sweden in a few months. Can I trust that she will not have him over? My W did tell me that he may come to Boston (his Hotel would be sending him). This could be perfect timing. He lives in AZ. My W did tell me when all this was being brought out in the open, that he mentioned about flying to Boston and even flying to where we are going for vacation in April. W would never let that happen. We are with her family. So if they are still in touch, then it is only a matter of time before they get together. <p>Still do not get this whole thing. We are still PA to one another and OM is not even her type at all. W did say that his way of living sounds interesting. No worries or hassles like that of raising kids. Can the stress of raising a family cause one to have an affair?<p>I fell like I'm writing for the show "sex and the city". <p>I almost feel like my marriage would be over if they stayed in touch and I confronted my W with anything I find. It's a no win situation in my book.<p>Confused as ever!

HI Jeeper,<p>
Do you stil have that temp hotmail address?<p>Thanks,<p>[ April 06, 2002: Message edited by: something wrong ]</p>

Something Wrong, I hope that you did catch this in time. I had my head stuck in the sand for much too long and my W had an extensive PA with a coworker. Your thread caught my eye because of your description about your family life. This is very similar to my story.<p>I suspect that my W's EA is still continuing and I have my doubts that we can ever repair our marriage with OM being so close by.<p>I hope and pray that you can make positive changes that will bring you back together. MB is a good place to start, but there is a life of work ahead of both of us. A's are definitly one of the hardest things to overcome during a lifetime.<p>Work on improving yourself and keeping yourself healthy. Read and try to understand everything you can and DON'T GIVE UP.