</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Living2Day4Him:
What is "JFO" and "SAA"? I've had this same experience with my WS. Thanks for the info.

Nevermind <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I think you got it, but just in case...

JFO is the Just Found Out Board... the one that this thread is posted on.

SAA is two things actually, depending on the context. I think as you read it above, it Sexual Addicts Annonymous, but it can also be Harley's book Surviving an Affair.

MM and Living2day, I'm interested in starting a support group for women who have experienced this in their marriages or relationships.

I really think there's more of us out there than we know because it's even more difficult to bring into the open than the garden variety affair.

If you're interested, email me at info@lifeworks-coaching.net

I'd also be interested in your thoughts on what such a group could offer you and what you'd really like to have as support from each other.

Brightest Blessings!!

C

cerri -

How do I email you? This conversation need to be private to be totally effective. Also, I want to post some observations I've made about "cheating" that are unpleasant truths, but I don't want to destroy anyone's hope for reconcilliation/recovery.

"Tell me about your family... kids?"

No kids. Just me and wife.

"Your wife has no knowledge at this time?"

Some, but not complete. (No physical details - that would be gross! - nor complete knowledge of where/when/how often, etc.) She knows I'm a sex addict, that this is a serious problem, and we both are going to have to work on it.

"Talk to me about the other conditions that set off the craving, and the process you use to find and intiate sexual encounters."

Visuals do it for me. (Even women's underwear ads can get the motor running! Pathetic, huh?) As far as satisfying my cravings, the internet has been a godsend for perverts of all types, myself included.

"What is it that makes it so pleasurable?"

Physical contact, either thru intercourse or the infamous, "hand job". (Do you really want me posting this here?) Sexual stimulation ending with ejaculation, where I concentrate totally on myself.

"How much of this site have you read."

Not enough! But there is sooo much to learn.

Addictions suck!!!

info@lifeworks-coaching.net

sign up for my monthly newlsetter, which is about marriage in general, not specific to SA, at www.saveyourmarriagecentral.com

C

Hi Doofus,

I've been reading this thread since you first posted and I am glad to see that Cerri has found you. You couldn't be in better hands.

I also am the wife of a husband with prostitue issues. For this to ever be behind you, she really needs to know about it. When some of her hurt and anger settles down then hopefully she can support you in your recovery.

Like you, my H considered himself to be "normal" with a extra-healthy sex drive. Now that he has begun to address it, he sees how unhealthy it is for himself and our marrige. There are still times when he likes to argue that all men do this, but I will never believe that this is true.

You are putting yourself and your wife at risk for STDs and much much more. I know that in his softer times, my H also confesses that he has some self esteem issues and having the special attention of prostitutes makes him feel more desirable.

I just wanted to say, good luck on this journey, you are certainly not alone. Please talk to your wife.

PasDeDeux

My wife knows I have a sex problem, and I am seeking help, but when I try to tell her details she gets very uncomfortable, and changes the subject.