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I did honour my vows to the end, right up until she severed the marriage union by becoming intimately involved with the other guy. Thanks for the accountability question nevertheless.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by niceguyjim:
<strong>I did honour my vows to the end, right up until she severed the marriage union by becoming intimately involved with the other guy. Thanks for the accountability question nevertheless.
Blessings!</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I agree with you niceguyjim.........I think you have nothing to feel bad about.....good for you, and god bless.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Chris -CA123: </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">StartingOver: "what difference does it really make if he has g/f now or not??? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">What difference did it make when she had a boyfriend? She perhaps thought the marriage was over? Why was it wrong then for her to date?</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I agree with Chris for if we are going to make exceptions to the rule of fidelity in marriage, then there isn't much of a point in having it to begin with, is there?.
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I know you went through a lot and you have become a better person, but I do agree with TooMuchCoffeeMan, you are breaking your marriage vows by having a relationship outside the marriage. If you are not divorced, you are still married, right? So, does 2 wrongs make a right? Not in my book. Infidelity is infidelity regardless of how we feel. If I went out right now and found a girlfriend, would I not be as guilty as my wife who left me 2 months ago? Yes is the answer today and will be in 2 years if we are still married then... Just my opinion....
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NGJ You WW did break your vows, but these vows still bind. You did not divorce, instead you dated. I agree with TMCM, you seem to have put yourself and your own needs above others. It isn't fair to your daughters. Its not fair to your OW, (Yes Other Woman, you are still married). Sin is sin, there is no degree of sin, there is no getting around it. </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I believe in my heart that my wife severed our marriage vows when she became sexually involved with her boyfriend shortly after our separation </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">In your own statement, its your heart not God's. Why didn't you divorce before you started dating? Well, this is just my 2 cents.
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Thanks everyone for your thoughts. As far as divorcing before dating, here in Canada you must wait until being separated for 1yr before you can effect a divorce, unless you prove adultery (difficult at best). My 1yr is up on Sept 11/03.
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As far as divorcing before dating, here in Canada you must wait until being separated for 1yr before you can effect a divorce
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I have to agree with the others that it doesn't matter who began dating whom first. Either way, it is wrong to date someone when you are still married. You cannot have two wives can you? I just cannot imagine God looking favorably upon having a girlfriend while still married... EVEN if the marriage is bad or headed for divorce. Besides, what others said is very true about not rushing into new relatioships so quickly.
<small>[ June 12, 2004, 07:26 PM: Message edited by: LoveMyEx ]</small>
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Good points and good scriptures, all in keeping with their context. Thank you. I will consider them further.
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