michelle,

Get medication and get support from close family and probably stay with you.

-rh-

rh..already on meds...depression is an ongoing thing with me is not new due to this added stress in my life!! As for someone close..my mum is flying out as we speak and will be giving me as much support as I feel I need from her!! thanks!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Still sucks though!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Get some sleep and tomorrow you would get a great help ... my mom flew acrross the world to help me out too.

-rh-

thanks yet again rh! got some sleep! H is coming over to bath dog ( i could bath her but he took her for the weekend and brought her back dirty LOL said he would wash her so am taking him up on it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ). Of course am looking forward to seeing him and hoping I will not LB!!! Wish me luck will let you know how it goes!! My mum wil be here sometime time tonihgt about midnight am looking forward to seeing her..I know she is extremely worried about me!! the extra supprt will be great!!

Hello Michelle.

I want you to know that my 'story' is very similar to yours. It's all happening so quickly and it's totally out of my hands.

Keep Plan A'ing as long as you feel it don't destroy you and/or your love for your husband.

I'll keep reading here.
Take care <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hi danish..thanks for your support!! can I ask you ir anyone a question?? Technically the van is mine...i am not beong difficult, he has the van with him as he needs to go back and forth to work... i asked what his plans were this week with van as he is on noghts..i can have it duiring day..he said monday and wednesday he wouldnt be home after work right awy...i asked why..monday was an ok reason, but wednesday he wasnt sure what "they" were going to be doing...so i said you are doing something with her, and he said probably..now I dont want to be difficult about tyhe van but I also feel i dont want to help out in his seeingher...what do you suggest?? anyone????

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by michelleo_73:
<strong>H is coming over to bath dog ( i could bath her but he took her for the weekend and brought her back dirty LOL said he would wash her so am taking him up on it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ). Of course am looking forward to seeing him and hoping I will not LB!!! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ROTFLMAO ... bathe the dog .... more ROTFLMAO ... I would pick a spoon and jammed that kitchen sink and let him checks what is wrong with it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> . I am a martian but I still fall into Venusian's trick <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> ... sometimes knowingly and happilly <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . This is the dance we play between sexes ... LOL !.

I AM DYING TO SEE YOU TRY IT ... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> .

-rh-

Hi again
If the van is yours you should have it!

We too have shared my van. After H left and made it clear to me that he's still having an affair and have no intention to be with me, I asked him for the key. He can borrow the car occationally if he's taking our son out - that's it.
My H uses his bike & the bus - I don't see why I should make it easier for him and even more difficult for me to get arround.

We have a dog too - I'm going to find a new home for him because I can't afford to live in the house much longer.

I missed the van Q. I agree completely with Danish. As long as you notify him (make up a legit excuse) w/o anger, judgement (don't use OW's as a reason), and unreasonable demand ... you are not LB'ed. If you give that van away you are enabeling his A ... but if you LB'ed on this issues you are pushing him away.

-rh-

lol rh...he did finally come and bath the dog..not when he said..supposed to be in morning after work but he forgot to call me like he said he would..feels nice to be forgotten!! ANyways he finally came and bather her just before worj that night!!
The van...I will tell him tonight when he gets it that I will meet him for it at 815 am when he gets home..I wont mention OW but will just let him know i intend to use van in morning!! Might throw a damper in his oplans with OW for the day!!
I have something crazy to tell also, but now is not a great time to do it i have stuff to do, but will try and post tongiht somewhere on here!! Thanks you two!!

so i said i had a great story to tell!! Here goes...yesterday, H and I are talking and i mention again that it is way too early for any contact between OW and m our kids..so he then says...ok, i am willing to accept that right now..and then....can you "babysit" the kids on saturday? Babysit? I say first off...I dont babysit my own kids...neither does he!! Then I ask what he is going to be doing..he says there is a party...i ask with her..he says yeah...I say well no, they see you on the weekends...he says well they were invited too..I say NO WAY are they going..he say ok...we leave it at that for then!! Talk again today...we also have a 85th bday party for his grandma that we are both going to as none of his family has met our baby yet...it is going to be hard on me...basiaclally knowing he doesnt want me there..anyways back to story..will follow up on grandmas bday party later!! lol So he then asks me wouild you want to drop me off in toronto (where the party is) and i kinda look at him and laugh and say..are yiu seriously asking me to drop you off at this party...he sai i guess not..I could not belive the balls!! His mum also refused to take the kids home for him..she does not wantt o enable him to see her any more..why should we make it easier for him!! I then mention I had plans on saturday that I hadnt told him about because i didnt think it mattered as the jkids would be with him..so in the end he said he wuold take the kids and i could go out..I thot he meant to the party with OW but he clarified and said no he would stay home with the kids!! we havent come to a final plan for saturday yet, but will eventually!! I asked if her husband new about my H he said no not yet..i said where does he think she is giopng to be on saturday..he says at the party..then says he was invited but didnt want to go..so i ask him..does that not make you wonder...of he had wanted to go my H would not have even been invited..he sai no that it didnt bother him! I asked him..will you not feel awkward as she intoduces you to her frinds as "my boyfiend" while you are stanfdnin there wearing the wedding band I gave you..he said no it wouldnt seem weird!! I said something like " hi everyone this is my new "boyfriend" his wife and three kids are at home right now!!!" anyways..just updateing..will keep posted!! am i the only one that thinks this is totally crazy?? he is goign against everythign he ever belived in these days..I hope he wakes up and snaps out of it soon!
Michelle

Michelle ... time to act !, drop an annon letter or ask someone to call OW'H to tell him about A. Shake their A ! LOL !. Do it before Saturday <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> .

-rh-

annon letter??

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by michelleo_73:
<strong>annon letter??</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">anonymous letter ... -rh-