My wife has had and still may be having an affair with a co-worker who is a VP at her business. I too taped a long and explicit converstaion where my W and the OM discussed swinging, two-somes, threesomes, etc. Further, my w left the OM a fantasy voicemail about a threesome with another woman. I have since discovered gifts, overnight hotel visits that my W and the OM have had. My W knows I know everything and is scared that I will tell her boss and they will both lose their jobs. Further, my wife probably cares more about the OM than me. I dont think the fog has lifted, but I cannot prove there has been nc. My wife does not want to discuss the situation and is not actively seeking help. Further, when I confronted my w with the tape, she lied to me about who it was and she said she made the sex talk up.

I have not told her boss, the OM W, or my wifes parents. I am not sure what that will accomplish. You have to ask yourself if you are going to stay in the marriage. If not, why cause the anguish by outing the A. If you want to save your marriage, expose the A!

MM's wife needs to know.

AND you are enabling your wife just because this is her biggest client?

What is more important to you and your wife? How can you just accept that she will never tell his wife because this man is her biggest client?

She should value your marriage more than money!

Has the impact of what she's done not hit you yet or something?

As a mother, I don't see how she possibly could have sex with this man while his child was there! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />