Hi C,
Well, there was quite a time there that we helped each other keep our heads above water - you, me, HoFS,.. Yes, Dec 2 came and went, with really no thought of what "special" day that was. OM, and even thoughts and visions of him, seem to be really out of our lives. Even for her. And she says the fact that he divorced this year really did not change anything.
In April 2004, we are considering attending an outing that we have avoided for the past two years, because he usually was there. Along with about 300 other people though. She says she wants to go again, and see the rest of our friends there too. Knows she needs to avoid the OM, and says that is her plan. In some ways, a bit scary...but others, well, maybe it's time we resumed some things and not let him affect our lives.
Recovery has been very slow. Sometimes even questionnable. Sometimes good, but still well short of what I want it to be. Some of the lightheartedness is starting to return, and some of my own confidence that being together now is not just something temporary for her. Feelings are very much proportional to the amount of time alone we have in any given week. Just points to the importance of that. (Yes, and I know you've said this a gazillion times!) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
HoFS keeps me up on what's going on. You are in my prayers. Big birthday hug, and say hi to CerrisH for me. (I still think of the word "cherish" whenever I read that. Hmmm.)
P
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