Great letter. I agree with Dr. K especially about the demands. Save that for later.<P>I decide to wait a little while before I start my letter. I have always said I wanted to wait till I have a job and a place to live before I sent it. I think I will wait till then. I am going to act as if I never received that hateful letter. Make some deposits I hope but go on with my life. I have a lot of things to think about, that I want to come to terms with first.<BR><P>------------------<BR>di<P>

Jim, Jim, Jim,<BR> I think what you said was wonderful!!! I only wish my (H) would say them to me. I wouldn't be having the terrible thoughts I have now even as I write. Good Luck Jim. And if she decides not to come back there are plenty of women who whould love a man as kind and gentle as you.

Now I know my welcome wagon spiel understates how supportive everyone is here.<BR>Your tears... now cause me to cry... and yes... it's tears of joy!<P>Thank you... so much... <P><B>jamie-lee</B>... stay and learn from these people... unconditional love.<BR><B>Tim</B>... joy and of the forum... "is love truly blind"?<BR><B>Bill</B>... patience my brother... I hope your time for this <B>never</B> comes. <BR><B>Di</B>... take your time... everything in due season... when/if you need help with yours... please let me know! <BR><B>Confusedandwanted</B>... my words are sincere... and as my children remind me... I am the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/010225.html" TARGET=_blank>lobster</A> of my wife (right Chris)... to bad they don't remind my wife.<P>As I said before, I am scheduling a session with the Harley's (hope to do it between Christmas and New Years.) I'll pass on to you all the words of wisdom he imparts to me. My draft will change over time... If you want to see the draft in progress click <A HREF="http://users.erols.com/herczeg/PlanB.html" TARGET=_blank>HERE</A>.<P>True charity can be found in the compassion of good friends... <P>Jim

NSR,<BR> I think it's a good letter. I tend to agree with K and a couple of others about this part <P>"will have to be established, including blocking of phone calls to his area code(s) and from his numbers. Computer monitoring will be established......... <BR>This sounds a little controlling. Just tell her to stop contact.<BR> Also, remind her this is to save your feeling an stop your pain so you can take her back when the affair dies and she is ready. GOOD LUCK, WE'LL BE HERE WHEN YOUR READY FRANK