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Hang in there. I know it's hard. I struggle every second of every day. My WH is still seeing the OW as well. He's still in the FOG. The hardest part is not knowing where you stand. Stay strong, you have a child together, that's a wonderful thing. If this is meant to be, it will be. Don't push. I had a friend who's WW left him for a MM. My bestfriends WW left her H for the OM. The OM still hasn't left his W. She's in total financial breakdown. Be positive. It's hard, I know, because most of the time I'm not. But be strong.
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Well, it's over. She wants her space but at the same time, she wants to still see him. I told her I will give her all the space she needs but not to figure out if it will work with someone else. We talked about divorce and what we will do. Then before she left, I asked her if she would be willing to not have any contact with me (aside from our child) or him for two weeks. This way, neither one of us can influence her decision. She said she'll think about it. I feel like such a fool and a doormat!!!
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I know your initial reaction is to feel like a doormat. Remember, these all actions coming from someone who isn't in a clear state of mind. She's deeply in the FOG.
Her mind is in turmoil, and she needs to escape, she will escape you first because you're too much for her to think of, especially because you share a child.
Stay strong, and give her space. Distance yourself, and read up on plan A.
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Also if you haven't read Dr. Harley's HIs needs her needs you need to do that ASAP. Just when I think I might be having a little progress or feel strong something happens to make me feel otherwise. Learn and keep busy, you can't control them. I'm sorry you have to be here but this will be helpful.
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