Joe,
It's easy to see the rationale behind a revenge affair, the marriage vows are broken or shattered anyhow, right? Nope, not so for many of us, we just tend to forget part of it.
I wish I knew which book it was that put it into perspective for me. It was a Christian one, so if it's going to offend- stop now don't read! But I'm not going to get preachy here. Most of us, no not all, take our vows before God. It is a contract that we enter into not just with our spouse. There are actually three involved here. One has stepped out of bounds. At this point remain faithful for the two who are left.
If you need to do it just for you, listen to the others. It will aid more pain and add guilt to you. Stay away from that. It is hard enough now.

Bob,
About the weight. The infidelity diet is the hardest to go on and the easiest to stick to. It sure does work! My doc was really concerned over the amount of weight I lost. My family constantly comments. I blame it on my thyroid problems and don't have the heart to tell them the truth. Oh, if I only could have done the South Beach instead.
MM

Discovery is a heck of a diet.

I lost 35 pounds the first 10 days after my d-day.

Moving forward is hard. My W just had an
EA but she posting about him on public
forum. She described him as the greatest kisser
she had ever known and that she never wanted
to kiss anyone again.

I am not trying to rush her but in time
I plan to reclaim that title for myself.

She wrote a very detailed story about their second
"Date" and I learned a lot about what she
liked about the way he kissed. I plan to
integrate his techniques into my own.

I will not let the movies inside my head
prevent me from reclaiming the emotional,
intellectual, and physical bond my W
and I once shared.