I can understand your wifes needs but please think about it. I can tell you for a w point of view if you love your h why would you need to see another man to figure it out. You are allowing your wife to have an a with your knowlage. What happened to fighting for love and family. If she needs time you should seperate and open the door for yourself and see if she is willing to accept the fact that there are others out there for you. The most important thing is to remember be true to yourself first. It sounds as if maybe you had an affair and she is wanting the same opportunity but if thats the case you shouldn't be together. what's the point you are already living seperate lives. she is only making a game of it. If you have never had an affair and she is trying to see where she rather be do you think it's worth it seems your relationship didn't mean that much to her if someone she never has seen can take her heart.