You mentioned you were in the hospital for a chronic medical condition,does this condition play a role in how you two relate? you weren't married long, didd you see any signs of her prepping a A? Clearly this man didn't just appear out of nowhere. I would opt for divorce here. Not because of the child but because of two things. the short duration of marriage before the A and that took thought and planning. And your health is she angry resentful of your having a health problem?