Exposure is probably the MOST effective way to help bring an affair to an end. Granted, it takes some courage to do it, and yes, the WW will be mad as hell when you do it, but, seldom does the anger last very long and I've never seen a report on these forums where it "ended" the marriage.

Do NOT tell WW that you are going to expose, or she'll trump you and explain to people her Husband is nutz and spreading viscious rumors about her, and talking nonsense about her behavior.

Affairs thrive in secrecy. Bringing the light of day (reality) onto these fantasies is often the swiftest and most effective death blow.

There is a proper way to do so, explained in Surviving an Affair. Do you have your copy yet?

SD

I'm going to Barnes and Noble today after work to pick it up SAA! I have exposed it to one or two close friends of mine that don't normally have any contact with her. Her mom knows and they have talked, but aren't talking now becaus what she's doing, my pastor knows and a few friends at church, but they haven't talked to her. The only one that has any contact with her is her mom. So it's kind of a partial exposure. Again she is denying that she has met anyone to her mother, lies to MC, but WW doesn't know that I have as much info on her that I do ie, pics of her leaving next morning, knowing where OM house is.
In another post you were talking to MIF and told him to expose and "tip his hand to her". I guess I should do the same right, then that means she'll know about the PI and evidence I'm gathering. I would like to point out that I'm only gathering the proof in case of the D, and would gladly tell and burn if the M was going to move into recovery.
I guess I'm asking should I tell about the PI or only that I know and have pics? any thoughts?