</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> And I DID just do it - about an hour ago </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>???</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sorry John - not communicating well - was in a huge hurry to get the kids supper fixed and get ready for work, as well as listen to my wife rant at me. I meant I had just confronted her - in essence, I've begun Plan A.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>Plan A is not something you do as a one-time thing. It is a change in the way you relate to your spouse which you keep up for as long as you can, and then you go to Plan B. Now it is sometimes the case that you cannot do it for more than a few minutes...but that means it's time for Plan B.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I think I've been preparing for Plan A for a long time - even before the affair actually began, by listing what I know to be my main LBs and then working systematically to remove them. Unfotunately, my W has been so out of the picture (hanging out with freinds, keeping separate hours, etc, that I am not even sure she knows me right now at all - I think she still sees the old me...oh well - these things can pass...
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>Did you read those links?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Read 'em, and printed them to study them at work in spare time while writing my journal...
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Now I'm stuck with waiting to see what happens. RIght now she has locked the bedroom door and is on the phone with who knows who, telling them what a bad guy I am... </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Don't worry too much about how she reacts. Just work your Plan. She is in a fog and will not respond as expected or desired. It is likely that her external and internal reactions will be different, or even opposite.
Don't worry about what she says or does. Worry about what YOU are saying and doing. [/QB][/QUOTE]
Thanks for the advice - I prayed all night to stay calm, confident, loving and firm thru the next weeks. Maybe she will start to rememeber the good we had that she has totally forgotten...Sob sob poor me...
David