Thanks, sing. I have beem mulling over this very question and I intend to bring it up with Steve. Little by little, I have told him the truth, but he does not want to believe it. There's nothing I can do about that because I need to avoid being critical of Mom, but it sure is hard. I've slipped a few times. Making it worse is the fact that he knows OM very well and doesn't understand why I don't consider him a friend anymore. Inside, I wish he would shun his mother because he's maybe the one person who has the power to wake her up. But I know I can't cultivate this. On the other hand, OM's three kids have essentially disowned him and it hasn't woken him up. That's beyond my comprehension - that an adult who witnessed the loss of our child could then turn around and willingly cast off his own. Amazing.<P>Dave (WAT)

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Making it worse is the fact that he knows OM very well and doesn't understand why I don't consider him a friend anymore.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>.....On the other hand, OM's three kids have essentially disowned him<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P><B>Dave,</B><P>You have written in the past your family & OM's family were close. What does your son think about OM's children essentially disowning him? Has he mentioned it? <P>From what I am seeing with my own OS, it seems the less he mentions something, the more it may bother him. Last wk with the witch lady psychiatrist, he would not even let her talk about how his dad's & my problems maybe effecting his life. He refuses to acknowledge that he is acting out as a direct result of this problem in our family.<P>Don't mean to go borrowing troubles for you, but after seeing what my son is cable of doing, I worry. As if I don't have enough of my own, now I am worrying for other people, am I sick or what.<P><I>Your interfering expat friend</I> <BR>