Maybe I am getting more confused.

I know that part of plan A is working on me but I thought it was also about doing your best to meet WS's EN. As a matter of fact the question was asked of me in an earlier post, have you given her any flowers, candy, etc.

I am sorry that I put the issue of my moving back into the house into her lap last week, in retrospect. Despite some very well meaning advice from here. Due to the fact that she viewed this as my attempt to move back in to repair the marriage. Now her guard is up for everything that I do or say to her.Before that I had acutally been able to kiss her hello and goodbye each time and actually got a hug and kiss from her that she initiated the night before I dropped my moving back into our home into her lap. Now that wall that she has built between us is higher than ever before.

I do need to focus on working on me and becoming a better person all the way around. The person that has existed in my mind for years that I have never nurtured and brought out. Way too many insecurities.

Please God, give me strength.

Thanks and God Bless.

HI again, I know you will be getting very confused about this it seems to be part of it all especialy when you ask a question & one says this & someoe else gives other advise. You know your wife we don't so please don't take everything said on here as gospel. This is what I did & unfirtunately I am one of those people that cant always wait for answers & has to do whatever it is now!! so i stuffed up majorly at times. I found that once my h had put up that wall nothing i did or said made one scrap of difference to him he didn't care about anything only that he didn't love me anymore & wasn't going to live the rest of his life MISERABLE...fog fog fog
I truly believe that had i contacted Steve Harley a few months ago that I would still be married today..I got hung up on the plan B thing from all i had read on here & thought it was my only option so thats what i did & of course as soon as Steve gets me in his counselling it's back to plan A but once i had left there was no going back I was an emotional wreck we were LB like crazy H seemed to hate me with a passion!H put up the wall & that was it he wouldn't let me back in & I'm still trying to regain h trust enough that we can form a friendship