Just need to vent. I was doing so good and then today I check my email and there is an email from OW. She said that she is sorry for everything that has happened. She wants me to back off because she loves him and she can't compete with me and my kids. Because H still loves me. I had this dirty email all ready to send to her and then I changed my mind. I am a bigger person than that, I deleted the email and did something even better. I forwarded it to H. He was so mad at her. This is the second time that she has done something like that. I just hope she keeps acting like the immature child that she is. I am so mad that she did it, but I am also glad.
On a happy note, my husband were talking on yahoo messenger from 8 a.m. til 7 p.m today. I have decided that I am going to play the part of OW. For now, I am going to leave all of the serious topics to her. I will get all of the fun stuff. Oh yeah, H called me Baby today, something he hasnt' called me since it started happening. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ August 19, 2002, 08:00 PM: Message edited by: 4mygirls ]</small>

Well, I thought we were doing really good. H told me that he loves me. He says that he is still "in love" with me also. But he loves OW too. He says that he can't come back to me because he wants us both. So he is choosing her because she isn't making him choose. She wants to be my friend. He wants us to get a divorce, but he wants me to live with him. OW is 800 miles away still, and not planning on moving down here. I asked him when he saw me moving out and he said never. I had gotten so excited about the way things had been going and now it feels like I am losing him all over again.
I need advice, badly. I don't want to move to Plan B yet, because I don't know if I can not talk to him or see him. Plus when I move to Plan B I have no other choice but to move back to my hometown. Which is 1400 miles away.
Even after he told me that he still choses her he told me that he loves me. Can anyone help me, I don't know what is going on in his head. Is this a good sign. Or a bad one. It feels really bad. Anyway thanks for listening.

I am so, so sorry. This OW has no shame. I would like to write what I think of her but I don't want to waste the time! What's even worse is your husband is totally buying into it, even when he sees proof of her ways (that e-mail you forwarded). This is just what I would do. I would implement some tough love. Maybe a lot of people would disagree here. I don't know. But I think he cannot continue to do this to you. I understand the merits of Plan A, I understand most WS are in a fog, but each BS can only take so much and it must be different for each person, when and where to draw the line. He cannot have you both like he wants. And I don't think you should say he has to choose. So, I would seriously consider plan B. See, I think if this OW wants him so bad, and he is "in love" with her, let him go to her with open arms. And see how long that relaitonship lasts! From reading these posts, it seems lots of WS cry and whine how they just need to be with their OP, their "soulmate". And when the trap door opens (plan B), and they get what they wish for, most of the time the grass is NOT greener. If he comes crawling back, the power is in YOUR hands to take him back or not. If not, then he deserved to be with a woman who has ZERO respect for the institute for marriage. She'll prob. do the same thing to him. Or maybe he will to her. Who knows? Anyway, this is just my opinion!