Need 'veteran' advice please. If you can read my last few posts and then give me some advice, I'd really appreciate it. I am still in Plan A, but have finally agreed to my H's request for separation agreement only because it's something that I know is logically the right step after 3 months for myself and the kids financially, and also because my H is adamant it's what he wants and I suppose it's time to accept that, and hope that it does't lead to the more final divorce step.
I do NOT want my marriage to end. I DO want my H back, but yes, I know Plan A is for me and I'm working on that also as well as trying to meet H's ENs best I can in the few moments we see each other. However, if you read a post of mine from the weekend, you'll see that I can't take being treated badly anymore, and I don't feel I should.
However..this is the situation now and it's driving me crazy to be honest. My H has 75% of his stuff still here, and has made no attempt to pack it up or even discuss packing it up.
Now..I left that message (see a previous post) that we should discuss when he would perhaps like to get the rest of his stuff from here. He hasn't mentioned anything to me since that message about the separation or his stuff, and I'm finding that being surrounded by all of his personal stuff is driving me crazy. It's not stuff he 'needs' right now..it's just those types of personal belongings we all just own, but in addition there are quite a few clothes and coats as well.
So..do I remind him he has all this stuff here, or do I not say that? Is he not getting his stuff because he's too lazy to do the work as it isn't stuff he needs on a daily basis..or..is he just not doing it as it's more convenient to leave it here until he decides on his next step..ie..moving into his own bigger place. OR..do you think it's an indication that deep down in his soul there may be some tiny doubt and so that's why he's leaving the stuff here?
I don't want to go ahead and pack it all up for him because I did that with some stuff early on in the separation and it was a HUGE LB. And, I also don't have the energy or time right now.
Can anyone give me advice please?
I know I sound really confused, and I am. I just know that I don't want to say the wrong thing but I don't want to live surrounded by his stuff for months either until HE makes a decision. And, as I said, I don't want to push because what if there is a small doubt that may result in him perhaps eventually wanting to 'try' again?