Sorry "J" about the man thing - I think I am confused all the time now. Anyway I do the chopping and helping out in the kitchen. My husband truly enjoys cooking different things and we do entertain alot. We both are in the kitchen and enjoy this together. I do not leave this entirely up to him as this is something we enjoy together. We actually got out in to the garden last night and worked together in the yard. It was nice. He is away on business again (3 more days). I am still not sure what is going on in his head, the opportunity to be alone without distraction has not presented itself over the last week. I still do not know what he is thinking. We are going to counselling again this week, with our EN questionnares. I hope we will learn some more this week. I feel as though I am going crazy with the lack of affection from him. Anyway, thanks for your input.