Greg,

My situation is different. My ExW filed first and put NC on me. I did follow it under SH advice to just let it such (modified plan B). 6 months into Dv I can't take it and I need to protect my self financially and emotionally including for my 2 D. In CA We could get change of status to Dv regardless the Custodial & Fianciall settlement after 6 months of process. I petition to the judge w/ LB$ totally gone but her lawyer ask delay for the health insurance coverage (I got laid off). My action is to protect myself, I need to have the saying if she cancelled the Dv. I agreed to delay it since I want to give her time too. As TMCM said you need to get ready to move on. By the time I am Dv (status), she is irrelevant in my life. I am ready to move on.

For you, wait to file if you don't have any pressing reasons. If you could walk away from your M w/ out angry, frustration or hurt .... you are ready. Just watch out for any temporary arrangement now, it would be temporary order during the proceeding then it would be finalized. I would get a lawyer and consult with him/her on Monday, not even Tuesday. However don't file, yet.

-rh-