Next time when there is a T-K-D tournaments or try out for next belt where your WW is participating, don't let that chance slips. Be there with your son plus now you could see your enemy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> . You are in a good hand with SH. He will probably tell you to ignore her A & her contact for now. You are not done with Plan A yet. I know it hurts but bite your tounge and control your self for a few more months. She will either turned around or reject you out right. Either way it is her choice.

You will feel like doormat ... it is and you have no choice since you ammend your WW for years of neglect and you have to convince her that thing would be diferent. Keep your taker at bay ... I think your WW is reponding to your plan A very well.

-rh-

Hi Everyone,

Looks like my wife is rejecting me outright.
We talked last night and she tells me that marriage is over and that if i don't reach agreement with her on divorce settlement, she is going to turn it over to lawyer to take care of, i.e. she will file.
Told her about my discussions with a coach (SH of MB) to work on my issues of how I relate to her and told her about interesting approach I have learned about (MB) to help couples change their feelings for each other. Related to her that SH would like to talk to her to get her perspective. She was silent for a long while and then told me that this marriage is over, she wants out, and she is not interested in talking to SH. She told me that how I first reacted after her initial discussion with me about her changed feelings about me , (my LB's of several angry outbursts and disrespecful judgements)convinced her and sealed her decision that she needed out of our marriage. The entire discusion last night , I listened respectfully and only spoke to her about my feelings.

Got to set up a discussion for me with SH quickly for advice. I'm not sure now if there is any hope of recovery of our marriage and relationship.

bill0126,

First what make you think that WS is rejecting you outright ?. Who started the R talk ?.

Yes, this is a very good time to talk to SH and update him. Meanwhile, let her file and told her this is not what you want so don't agree to anything. Shifting her guilt to you is common, telling you about your LB'ed and others to justify her to Dv you .... IT IS NOT JUSTIFICATION BUT AN EXCUSE.

I would stay away from R talk and let her file.

-rh-