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Re: Plan B - here we go!
#469158 12/10/03 04:08 PM
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Keepmvn I will have contact with her at some point because of the kids and no relationship talk. I hope I can be pleasant.

Roller You are correct, I can't do anything about it now and I need to concentrate on the holidays because of the kids

Coach You are right, I am afraid. If this divorce goes through I will lose the house and have to start all over and at this age I do not look forward to any part of that scene.

She is the center of the family and everything did revolve around her. However, as you so correctly point out 1) if I give in to her now nothing will ever be fixed correctly and 2) things are so screwed up now - what have I got to lose?

So if ya all would be so kind as to kick my a$$ every time I whine or stray off the beaten path, I would appreciate it.

Stayin' dark.

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Re: Plan B - here we go!
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Be careful what you ask for, a lotta people here are willing to do a litte a$$ kickin as you say.

I think Coach has some good points. Thinking about it, the Dv papers at this time of year seems to be a ploy to regain control of the relationship. His advice was good for both of us since my WW was trying to break the Plan B NC rule "because it is Christmas". Sorry honey, I'm standing firm.

I can't imagine starting over. It would require tremendous effort, but God will provide you with the strength and energy to do it if that is what his will requires. He has watched over you throughout this time. There may be things he wants to remove from your life so that he can draw you closer. That's what he has been doing in my life atleast. Simplifying my life and revealing himself to me.

Be strong, stay dark, and best wishes.
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