Freetobeme & Star*fish
My H said no more C but my gut feel tells me that he is not telling the truth....he cld still b contacting her using a prepaid mobile which I do not know its existence of or OW cld be contacting him.No solid proof though only mere strong suspicion judging from what he told me regarding what transpired from their so called last conversation. Apparently OW was not pleased that he want to stop business dealings with her...that meant he did not establish NC with her earlier since she was still expecting or hoping sthing from him sometime in the future.

From what I gathered I strongly feel that contact was not terminated COMPLETELY even during so-called last conversation..meaning that they are still friends.My H does not want to hear abt how to est NC by MB method..he thinks hw knows what he is doing. I cannot accept them being friends...not after what has happened (7 year A is a VERY LONG AFFAIR even though its off and on) and I reckoned the only way I can b surer OW and/or my H will be more hesitant to resume C is if OWH knows abt A.In fact my H has told me before that OW is scared that I will tell OWH abt A.

Any sugg on what and how to tell OWH? How to explain to H my actions without getting him upset. I know he will b extremely mad...he may even pack up and leave. So scared..but I still somehow feel that OWH should know. Pls help

Played Out,

"From what I gathered I strongly feel that contact was not terminated COMPLETELY even during so-called last conversation"

You have suspected this for some time now. Is there something that has occured that makes you feel more convinced besides the what WS told you about the last conversation?

Dear All
Told OWH on 15/1 and guess what? Meeting with OWH went on smoothly...OWH was deeply shocked beyond words.But when I came home before I cld even tell my H, OW beat me to it. She got the cheek to call my H at my house and complained that now her H knows and want my H to CLARIFY...meaning DENY. My H was shocked that I had informed OWH..he had not expected me to. He went into a RAGE does not want to listen to any explanation, packed and left.I told OWH that my H has left me.I am sure OW is happy.The next morning he came back and pack a few more clothes and flew off not wanting to tell me when he is coming back...he just said when he pleases. He also mentioned that now he can contact OW anytime he pleases and that OWH cannot stop her from calling him if she wishes.It seemed that she is contacting him more often now complaining about this and that abt me and he is listening but he does not want to listen anything to what I want to tell him abt meeting.Now he is starting to LB..we had more or less stopped but now its starting again. He said he had warned me not to tell OWH bcoz he has stopped contacting her for last 4 months. What made me suspect that contact cld be stll going on wsa bcoz on the date he was supposed to have called her to end contact, his mobile does not show any call to her..he said he called from his office(not working day)..why does he have to go all the way there unless he was using a prepaid card which he kept there...his office phone also showed no calls made to her no on day in question.
I just cannot trust him anymore and I think I have made matters worse now. Pls advise...going nuts....more depressed.

Played Out