Very Sad: Kick the bum out before he walks out on you for the 5th time!!! Get on with your life right now. He is not worth this agony you are going through. And stop blaming everything on the OW! It is empowering to throw him out. You are strong to a point, but you continue to play his game. I can't feel sorry for you any longer. Move on! Let him go! Forget about Plan A, B, or whatever. Get tough. Call a lawyer ASAP! All the counseling in the world is not going to change this guy. This will only prolong your agony and build up your hope for another 18 months! Don't do this to yourself. Your kids, especially your daughter, need to see that you don't put up with this crap from a man. You don't want this to happen to her too do you? And your son, you don't want him to learn that this is how you treat women! Set a good example for your children. This is his second affair....geez. Come on girl! Change your user name to "used to be very sad". Lillian

<BR><p>[This message has been edited by Think Twice (edited August 27, 1999).]

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<BR><p>[This message has been edited by Think Twice (edited August 27, 1999).]