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Ha! I love the fortunes. How appropriate. Are you sure you didn't plant them?
If you could get him to use the home phone, you could bug it. You can get a recorder from radio shack that you just plug into a phone jack anywhere in the house. It will record everything.
Then you just go out for the day and leave him at home, and hope he calls someone.
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No, I don't think he use home phone a lot. He uses the cell and hide the phone activity. I need to call the cell company to find out. It is under his name. Who he talks to on the phone may not be important. I need to know whom he is meeting at nights. Is there any device I can buy to pu in his cloth, so I can listen? Boy, I am becoming a spy.
Kids did not behave in hte morning. H is yelling at them,and threat them that he will leave. What kind of father!
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You can get a voice activated recorder to put in the car, but the people here seem to have trouble getting anything clear.
Or you may just have to hire a PI. They are expensive, but will get the goods on him. Then you can expose the A.
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Believer,
I am seriously considering hiring a PI. I need to find out how much it costs first. I will pray for direction. Talk to the ministor and friends before any action. I need to go to church now. Take care.
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A PI may cost around $500. for 4 hours. A cheaper way is to rent a car, and if you can figure out when he is going, you or a friend follow the suspected OW. Put on a blond wig.
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Another thing to try is call all the motels in the area. I did that and every single one of them let me know that H was not registered there.
It only takes a little time. I called and said a friend was checking in at around 5:00PM. I gave his name, and each one let me know he was not registered.
Then if you find one he is at, hang up and show up at the motel.
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That is a good idea. But what if he doesn't use his won name?
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Most places require ID. He will probably use own name, or maybe it will be in her name.
I wrote all the motel numbers down and called one after another - all 17. It took less than 20 minutes. It saved a lot of time, and gas.
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But I think that there are much more than 17 of them in this area. It is a huge metro area. I even don't know which direction he is heading to. We are close to Cananda, I found one credit card charge of hotel in Canada in Dec.
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Well they usually go back to the same place. So call the hotel in Canada. Otherwise rent a car and follow OW. It only costs about $25.00, much cheaper than a PI.
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That is better idea. Now I have to think of babysitting and explain to them where mom will go.
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Now I just came home. I w3as responding to you from the library. As I predict, he's gone again with no trace.
But I found some pwd and ids. I can get to the cell phone page. But there is no activity for his phone. I am calling the phone company.
I don't know why I got to hate him now.
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Start calling hotels and motels. Do it for about an hour. Then next time he disappears call other hotels.
Later you can rent a car, put on a blond wig and follow suspected OW. If you know ahead of time that he is likely to leave, you will have a head start.
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Lost are you in NY? Close to Canada where?
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While I was holding to talk to the cell phone company, my cell phone rang, it was OW's H. I missed that call, he said he had something for me in hte message. Then I called back, but he was not there.
When I canme back to the phone, I lost the customer service. I have to wait again. I am not in NY.
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He has probably figured it out. Have you called hotels?
I think you will find out soon what is happening. Are you ready?
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I am still on the phone with the cell phone company. He asked to removed the detail callin. I am asking to reintate that.
I am ready to learn something and I am not ready. Oh, I am so SAD and MAD and ANGRY. I want to cry. How about the kids. Why am I going through this?
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The phone company said that they add the detail calling back. Now I can check that.
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This bad feeling is coming back. I am crying. Somebody, please help.
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L&H I hope you are okay. I had to leave for a while and I see that you are sad. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> Please write and tell me what you found. I am here listening to you. Please post and let me know how you are. I hope you are better. XXXX
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