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Wait till Thursday. Don't do anything right now. See what develops, and yes, H will be furious.
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Just got an e-mail from S teacher. She said she understands and recommend to see a conselor in school. Is that a good idea?
I just cry again. I want to stop crying, but how do I control it?
Believer, thanks for your encouragement.
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Wait till Thursday. Don't do anything right now. See what develops, and yes, H will be furious.
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There are two of myself living inside me.
One said I even don't know I can live till Thursday. The other one said that you should trust GOD. He will handle everything. so i will listen to the kind me.
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Time to batten down the hatches. Get ready for a big storm. Your H is going to be mad, so prepare yourself.
Be sure to talk as calmly as you have been. So far you are doing great.
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What do i do if he gets mad? What do i do if he moves out? Will I be Plan B passively?
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Stay in Plan A as long as you can. Be sure you have some money put aside. Just get prepared for whatever happens. OW's H may make trouble for her too.
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Just got an e-mail from OW's H. He said that his brother in law(her brother) is going to help. But he said he doesn't want to let MIL know, she is too wesk to take it.
I am seroiusly thinking to tell my inlaws.
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I feel terrible. I even don't want to go home now. Am I feeling how H feels? I just can't get the picture of shatted family in mind. God please help me.
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Give us an update please. I had a huge argument with WH tonight. It was not pretty.
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Believer,
Are you ok? I am really concern. If you want me to call you, just give me a ring, you don't have to wait till I pick up. I get your phone number, I can call back.
It is a boring night. He is bored. I was reading bible. He already told me that he is not coming home tomorrow.
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I am fine. H came over tonight to talk about car insurance. I told him I am filing for divorce. Then we had to go through the same old argument. He keeps saying OW could have been gone, if I took H back. I told him she is not gone after a year.
So the argument went on and on. He thinks I am to blame, that he would come back, if I would take him, and OW would be gone. It just went on and on.
Finally I asked him to leave and he did.
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Believer,
I am so sorry for you. I wish my H would want to come back.
He already told me that he is not coming home tognight. My heart is hammered again. I know I shouldn't be like this. Every time he is not coming home, I get this terrible feeling. How I want to get rid of it.
Couple days ago, I told D that I may not be home when in evening, is it ok she watch S. She agree. Because I want to follow H after work. But she asked me about it before H. I guess I can't go this time.
I did pray. Pray for myself, family, for you and everyone out there. I don't know what else I can do. I need to focus my thought somewhere else.
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Believer, Are you ok? Hope you have a good day today.
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Yes I am fine, and yes you do need to focus your thoughts elsewhere. When you start getting a life of your own, your WH will take you more seriously.
Right now he knows that he can do whatever he wants to do. Last night my H told me that it looks like I am doing well without him, that I have my own life now.
The best you can do is get out doing things. You will get stronger. Then stay in Plan A and wait to see what happens. There is more to come, and your H will want to come back. But you must be strong to handle that in the right way too. Don't do what I did.
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I am glad you are fine.
I really want to get strong. But I don't know what to do. I don't have close personal friends here. Then I have to take care of the kids after school. Any advice?
I may look for a church support group to join.
OW's H starts concerning. He said he will work the other end to break them. I hope it works.
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I also thought about exposing him to his relatives. One of his cousin was also divorced from an infidelity H. Maybe I can get her to support me?
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by lostnhurt:
<strong> I also thought about exposing him to his relatives. One of his cousin was also divorced from an infidelity H. Maybe I can get her to support me? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Put pressure on A by exposing it. Also get OW'H to read up and get on to this forum too to get help.
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What would the outcome be if I expose him? Will he get mad? Will he move out? I don't know and I am scared.
OW's H seemed calmer than I am. I recommend him to come here, but I don't know whether he is here. He just lost his job.
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Take redhat's advice. He is the expert. Don't dwell on what may or may not happen. Listen to him.
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