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Should I wait till talk to SH?
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First I won't wait. Exposing is one of requirement while you are doing plan A. You need to put pressure to it.
Second. You have no control over his reaction before, now or in the future. Typical reaction of an addict is saying anything doing anything to continue the addiction. If he move out, hand him plan B letter on the way out. Again in MB you don't LB and you do plan A but YOU DON'T PUT UP WITH THE A!. What are you afraid of ?.
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Ook, I will do it. Thanks Redhat and Believer. I will pray before telling.
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Dear Hevenly Father, please give this woman a strength to carry on and give her the wisdom to find a way to salvage the union that you have blessed. Lord, Thy will be done. Amen.
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Redhat,
Thank you for your prayer. I just talked to his cosin. She is very understandable b/c she was there before. She also told me that H is not himself anymore. Give him some time to cool down. The A is still fresh. It will take about 6 months. That is exactly what the books said. God, how do I survive for 6 months.
I had told another couple of friends.. The husband was his ex-cowrker and a believer. They said that he can talk to H if it is ok. But I don't know whether it is a good idea. SH said that, he can talk, but don't get me involved.
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Yes, you can survive this for 6 months and you will survive this A w/ or w/o your WH. A happened for a reason. Just have faith. HE want to bless you with fullfilling M w/ or w/o your WH.
Let others react what they want to. Don't tell them what to do or to say and answer their question truthfully.
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Listen to redhat. We finally have the experts over here. Keep you appt. with SH. You are going to get through this. You have God, SH, redhat,OW's H, and us on your side. Keep doing what you need to do.
Be a strong woman for your marriage and children. H is too much in the fog right now.
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Thank you friends, you are really helpful. I got H's cousin on borad now. So I have GOD, my faith, my sister, a pastor in Canada who pray for me fasting, the faithful couple, OW's H, H's cousin, and all of you. Of course, my children. How blessed I am. Glory to GOD.
H's cousin talked to me for more than two hours, she shared her experience too.
Then children and I made snow ball outside. It was really fun. I made some curry chicken the kids like for dinner and lunch. I will hang in here.
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OW's H just e-mail me. She called him yesterday, claiming that it is "only" conversation between my H and her. what does that mean?
H is out now. I kept asking him that is she out. No answer.
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Tell the OW's H that he can come here and do some reading. That's what they all say. Mine went to a motel 3 times to "talk" during the day when he was supposed to be working.
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I told him that. But I don't know he is here or not.
I feel a lot better today. Peace inside. I think the prayer from the pastor in Canada really helped. He prayed with me yesterday and this morning in hte phone. I feel that I can let thing go easier.
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Hang in there. You have no idea what may be working for you in your life right now. Take one day at a time.
You have lots of support. Try to clean out those drawers, cook and take care of kids. Do fun things with them. Trust that this will work out.
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Yeh. I went shoppng for groceries today. I made good food for dinner, curry chicken kids like.
Then we made snow balls outside. We did have fun. I am a bit tired. I feel tired so easily lately. Maybe my emotion takes to much toll. After putting the kids to bed in few minutes, I may call my sister, then go to bed. Who cares where he is. We are having our life.
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Good girl. Keep on taking care of yourself and kids. You need to keep strong. Let your H stew in his own juices. He has brought this problem onto his self.
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Thanks for your praise. I need it. Hope someday we can get together, you can enjoy my curry chicken. It is really good.
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Here is my quote from the Bible for you tonight:
Be still, and know that I am God.
Please take it to heart and have some peace.
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Yes. I will recite it till asleep. Thanks.
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Just got an e-mail from OW's H. She is not home either.
I don't care. I will go to sleep and have a good dream.
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Go to sleep. Things are in the works that you know nothing about. You have made a lot of changes this week. Sweet dreams.
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H came home at 12:30am last night. I was tired but couldn't sleep. My heart was peaceful. So I took another Xena whcih helped me. I wish I don't have to take it. I never had a sleeping problem.
This morning, early in the morning, OW's H called. Luckly H was in shower, and I came back from dropping D to school, otherwise, the phone called won't be picked up. He said OW didn't come home at all last night. Isn't that strange. I told him that I will call later when i am in the office.
Then I asked my H, where did you go to have fun last night. He was not as defesive as the other day. He just said, I worked. Sounded very down. I said that wow, you worked awfuly long hours, from 9am -12 am. He didn't say anything. I don't know what that means and what had happened.
But I couldn't get a hold of OW'H now, I think he is online.
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